How to cope with your best friend being way hotter then you?

Me and my best friend are together a lot, we see each other every day. She's really pretty and gets a lot of guys. Girls will tell me I'm pretty but guys don't really like me. It's not my personality because we literally have the same exact personality. Sometimes it's hard to be friends with her because she'll get like 3 new guys every week hitting on her meanwhile I've never been hit on by a normal guy. I've even had cases where guys I've known and had a crush on got introduced to her and then started liking her. I love her so much but sometimes it's so hard to be friends with her. I'm pretty sure I'm not ugly though because everyone tells me all the time that I'm pretty. I'll admit maybe I'm a little jealous but I just don't understand what's wrong with me.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    Confidence is just as sexy as looks and can make someone seem 10x more attractive. I have friends who people question how they even get so many good looking men but I know its because their confidence is really high and they have a bubbly personality. It's not all looks and regardless when the right person comes along they will care more about who you are than what you look like so at least you'll know someone likes you for who you are.

    I'm attractive or so I'm told I'm actually average looking in my own opinion but anyway because of my supposed attractiveness I find even with my male friends I'll assume we're friends until they start admitting they find me hot and try to sleep or date me and guys will mostly ask me out before I even say much at all so it's so hard to sort out who actually likes me for me and who only likes me because they find me hot.. talking to nerdy men online is my way to go because then they get to know me for me and I don't have to show my best face to them I can just wake up and take a photo looking a mess and they'll say beautiful but then we'll have a two hour deep discussion involving our interests and beliefs, we'll laugh and it's amazing.

    So being attractive isn't all that its cracked up to be. I find connection is far more important and who you are as a person is worth far more than what your face or body looks like.

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    • Ihidabody

      I find it odd on how nobody will admit it is about the fact instead of connection and who someone is as a person. Also, someone can be the most confident person in the world, but it won't change their appearance. It is untrue that confidence makes people 10x more attractive.

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      • hauntedbysandwiches

        It's true, you're probably just too young or too sheltered to realize this lol.

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        • Ihidabody

          Um no, I'm just not living in Alice in wonderland.

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  • Curiouskitten444

    You're worth isn't in your appearance and it isn't in how many guys hit on you. Chill out and get some hobbies.

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  • niganigahanoi

    "hot" girls will usually surround themselves with "uglier" girls, to make themselves look more attractive. this could be your case, there's nothing you can do except stop hanging out with them.

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  • Goomats

    People tell you to be confident but HOW can you be confident if you're not getting in confidence-building situations?
    I would work on some very objective plans when it comes to your behavior and appearance. If you have acne or a weight problem, clean up your diet. If you slump, do posture exercises. Are your clothes shabby? Buy new ones or see youtube tutorials on how to mend them. Socially awkward? Read a book on manners or on how to socialize better.

    I have no idea what you or your friend look like, but achieving goals like this will not only make you prettier and more charming than you currently are, but seeing your physical and social improvements will build your confidence. You will have earned your own confidence and the benefits from it.

    Lastly, having focuses positive goals will divert your energy from getting jealous of your friend. Too many friendships have been unconsciously (or consciously) sabotaged with a jealous friend.

    I've used all the advice I am giving you personally and I can attest that it works. :-) You may not get ALL the guys' attention (and who needs that?) but you will get enough attention to have options of men and fall in love with a good one. <3

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  • Cable4nerds

    Confidence is key my friend.

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  • GaelicPotato

    Couldn't tell you honestly.

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  • MonkThousandWords

    get some copium

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  • Ihidabody

    Who cares? Guys don't really matter.

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  • MrToxic

    My wife believed felt the same way. She thought she was the least attractive between her and her two friends. In fact, when I first met her, apparently her friend had feelings for me at the same time she did. She self sabotaged because she believed I was better off with her prettier friend. Thing is she was the one for me. I found her better in every way. Two years into our relationship and she still believed she didn't deserve me, that I'm someone way out of her league. I constantly have to remind her that I fell for her. She my human. She can think her friends are more attractive, it doesn't mean I do. Gradually she came to feel more confident in herself, she may never reach the peak of confidence, but now at least, she no longer considers herself to be less than.

    I hope this helps you, there absolutely is a person that'll fall for you over anyone you're standing next to. Remember, amount of people showing up saying they like you doesn't matter. It's the quality of the guy that does that matters. Best of luck :)

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  • litelander8

    Let’s see some pics.

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    • 1WeirdGuy

      You shit out the baby yet?

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      • litelander8

        I’ve got one week left. I’ll probably ask for an induction since my last two were induced. I’m concerned if he gets too big I’ll have to have a C-section.

        At this point it’s hard for me to even lift up my legs to get dressed Bc of all the pressure. I feel like I went for a 3 mile run without stretching. 🙄

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