How to be more forgiving of women in my own mind?

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I am a guy. I find if a woman does something that comes across rude, crude or nasty that I think what could be the worst possible thing she could have been thinking and I decide that is what it was and while I am not usually rude back that particular woman in my mind can never come back from that and she is then always seen as one of the bad women.

Please don't judge me. I know there is no such thing as a perfect person. This problem has come after being treated badly by some women in my past. I am not trying to make this about me but get advice on how I can fix this thanks.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    Therapy. You know you have a problem, where the problem came from, and a willingness to fix it; you'll definitely benefit from therapy (if you find the right therapist for you). Good luck.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you very much.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    You spend too much time in your head there, buddy. Don't waste time fantasizing or trying to figure out out what goes on in other people's minds. You can't read minds, and don't pretend that you can, because it just creates negative garbage floating around in your head.

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    • Hellnaw
      6 years ago

      Amen sista!

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Thanks.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    Just have to try harder and focus on your own stuff and life. One of my long-time friends can be, and is, an insensitive, rude asshole from time to time, but, instead of overthinking what he says or does, I've learned to brush it off or redirect. Years ago, no..It would drive me crazy and I'd plan an equal or crushing reply, but it's not worth it. Anymore, with all of our technology addiction, it's easy to just not respond to anyone and let it go.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Forget the 'see a psych' advice, you won't go anyway. Read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' and learn why you're judging girls by pedestal-like standards and how to stop doing it.

    You're in for a bitter and lonely life otherwise.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I can imagine that book might be full of stuff I already know. Since I already know about the nice guy jerk subject when it comes to dating. I can also imagine it is about blaming also.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      There is currently a woman I am annoyed with right now. That is the thing when it comes to women I have such strong feelings, either I really like the woman or I have feelings of hate.

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      • bubsy
        6 years ago

        Because you have such strong positive and negative, mood-swing like feelings about women, I really recommend you do a google search for 'No More Mr. Nice Guy pdf' and click the first link.

        No matter how good your imagination is, the stories in there will give you some real insights that might change your perspective.

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        • Tealights
          6 years ago

          You push this book so hard, I'm going to give it a read.

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