How often you should see your boyfriend?

I haven't heard from my boyfriend in 5 days now. He's disappeared for a couple days in the past but I didn't think much of that. But now that its been almost a week I'm starting to worry. Is it normal or am I just needy?

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23% Normal
Based on 239 votes (55 yes)
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Comments ( 20 )
  • Jen118584

    You allow this? He's not your boyfriend, he's your fuck buddy.

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  • anoni

    Naw, you need to see him more.

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  • chocolate_123

    Why would you want to be with a guy who makes you feel this way. Regardless if you agreed that you wouldn't talk to each other everyday he could have still told you that everything is ok so you don't have to worry. He is selfish and that's silly I'd say you deserve better! Who would want to be with a guy who ignores you for a week and not say a word, no one wants that!

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  • dollcandy

    We agreed that we don't need to talk or see eachother everyday but almost a week without a call makes me worry if he's alright. Is it that big a deal that I should break up with him over it?

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  • blackfish

    1 needy. 2. Have a cry. 3. Stfu. 4. Get another life out of him. 5. Durp

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  • Jen118584

    Girl, you need some self respect.

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  • loviex102

    Not normal. You should see him at least 4 times a week.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    I lost my mustard once for 5 days so i know exactly how you feel inside it's horrible you just can't seem to make sense of anything.

    I hope things work out for you.

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  • nursebetty

    He has no respect for you and treats you really badly. Someone will treat you the way you deserve and love you like you never believed possible and it's not possible if you stay with this guy. Move on and find some self respect

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  • Wambo37

    just f*ck you :S

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  • dollcandy

    He apologized and we're okay now. He's going to be gone for awhile though. I wish I didn't love him. He's the only guy who I want being around/touching me. I wish that weren't true but it is. Thanks for all the advice.

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  • Ratso

    If i were you i'd aak him what is going on next time u see him. I wouldn't leave him just yet but i'd seriously talk to him about seeing eachother more often

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  • sqwert7889

    Whether it's a big deal or not is not significant. You can explain anything away to make it look like a small matter, and I'm sure he did, or has in the past. The main thing is that it hurt your feelings, simple as that. Just because it didn't occur to him to call maybe, or he didn't mean to doesn't change the fact that it made you feel bad, and THAT'S what matters

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  • bazwell

    the other day in conversation with some female friends, I responded to their question about whether or not I thought it was necessary to call my significant other daily by saying that instead of a lady making me have to check in daily; i'd love for her to let me want to call her daily. Now, I am a guy, and even to me, 5 days seems excessive in modern times with the availability of technology that simplifies the process.

    I think instead of ending the relationship with him, this might be something you want to discuss with him to let him know how it affects you and where you hope things could possibly change with time.

    best of luck to you!

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  • dollcandy

    Sometimes he acts like he really does love me and want to be with me but then things like this show me otherwise. I don't want to break up with him over something like this though b/c it does seem kind of small...

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    • Jen118584

      Well, no one can tell you what to do, so just do what makes you feel good. If you're okay with not having any idea what he's doing or who he's with for a week at a time, then I guess there's no problem. Is this the same guy that sometimes hits you and pushes you around?

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  • dollcandy

    Also: I keep having dreams about him almost everynight (it started a couple nights before he went MIA). When I woke up this morning I started crying because I realized it wasn't real.

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    • Jen118584

      What is the point of a relationship like that? You're just there to be his doormat anytime he feels like he needs company? No disrespect intended, but I just don't understand. If you're dating THAT casually, do you really consider him your boyfriend?

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  • tygeronherbed

    not normal.
    i talk to my boyfriend everyday
    we know where the other is at all times
    and we see each other everyday, if we cant then we skype>

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  • dollcandy

    to Jen- yea it's the same one. I'd rathar he hit me then leave me any day honestly!

    Bazwell, your right. He finally called me (it's been almost 7 days now) and apologized.

    I honestly don't even feel hurt. I don't even want him to explain himself, I just want him to love me.

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