How often do you see your other half?

This is my first relationship so it is all new to me... but I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and we only see each other twice a week, or course I’d see him more. We live 30 mins away and he doesn’t drive and I live in the country so it is a little awkward. But he doesn’t mention meeting more or ask for me to go round. We just plan things for the weekends.
I feel we should be seeing each other more.

I have anxiety so idk if that’s creating a problem that isn’t there. I’m happy but I need a lot of reassurance and I feel like it would be nice if he asked me to come round an odd night in the week.

I could ask but what if he doesn’t want me to? I don’t wanna mess it up by mentioning what bothers me because I don’t know if it’s a problem or me making a problem out of nothing... he doesn’t flirt with me anymore or call me beautiful but do those things die off after you’ve been together for a bit?

Is It Normal?
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  • Who?

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  • Since my girlfriend moved in with me, we see each other every day, but before she moved in, we'd see each other 2-4 times a week, depending on how busy we were.

    I prefer life now... Having to constantly shuttle her to and from my place and not being able to drink was annoying, since she only had a tiny dorm room and sleeping there was very uncomfortable. Besides, you know what they say... A man's house isn't a home without a woman's touch.

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    • What the hell, how can any person have extra time during the week to socialize when every one is working their ass off these days

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      • Most university students only work their ass off for exams. Otherwise it was a pretty leisurely lifestyle. I'm a car dealership manager and sell cars for a living... Not what you'd call back breaking work.

        Also I had a car... kinda saves you time. If we had to get to each other by bus, we'd only have time in the weekends. Besides, I was crazy about my girl and couldn't wait to see her again. She loved the attention... So after work when we were both free, I'd pick her up and drive home. She'd spend the night and on the next morning I drive her to university and then go to work.

        Before she became accustomed to spending the night at my place, I had to shuttle her to a restaurant and then back to her place and only then go home. She'd cost me like 30 bucks in fuel every week, but it was worth it.

        Believe me, if you wanna make it work, you'll find time.

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  • Before we moved in together my husband and I still managed a few sleepovers on working nights. We both worked absolutely ridiculous hours on shifts so it was the only way we could spend time together. If we both had the same day off we would prioritise spending time together, although obviously there were times this couldn't happen due to other commitments. But if it could happen then we made sure that it did.

    I think at the 5 month mark you should be getting a good idea of what you want out of this relationship. If you want to spend more time together then tell him. If he doesn't want to then... Maybe it's time for a rethink.

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  • "And if it loses? What then?"
    "Well, if it loses, precious, then we eats it! If Baggins loses, we eats it whole."

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  • What other half? My pornhub tab?

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  • OP you're a coward

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  • How old are you? Sorry you sound young and naive. Do neither of you work during the week days, because sorry to break the ice but adults have responsibility. If you see each other on weekends then that's ample. Should be happy that you see each other every weekend because some best friends dont even see each other for months on end.

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  • There’s no deadline for compliments. I still get them after 3 years and feel like you should? Also ik noone wants someone up their ass 24/7 but it’s not like you see the guy that much it wouldn’t hurt to say can I come by or tell him you want to see him more.

    In my opinion if someone I’m with didn’t wanna hangout or see me I don’t see a point in sticking around. I wouldn’t do that to someone because I’m with them to actually be with them. If you’re not wanted what’s the point in trying to grow.

    That being said I see my boyfriend daily and we both like it that way and ik some like distance and I could respect that too if he wanted time alone. But the fact we want to be together even if it wasn’t necessary all the time is what matters.

    Idk if that helps any but just talk to him maybe he even feels the same. If he doesn’t wanna see you it’s not on you it’s his problem. May be best to find someone who truly wants you.

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    • Except, thing is, is not healthy or normal to be in each others face 24/7!! Not to mention people who have time to hang around at anothers place if they arent living together, obviously dont have much of of a life or are needy as well as not being comfortable with being alone. I mean OP, must not be employed, no surprise given the huge amount of fat obese Americans who sit on their ass all day, eating fries and burgers behind a computer screen. Thing is, space is healthy and once every weekend, and all weekend is more than enough otherwise from personal experience you get sick of each other. People lose interest.

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      • Tf do you think I said about 24/7? That noone want it. I’m not a fat lazy American I’m a skinny one who actually likes working where tf did you come from. Idgaf what you thinks enough you don’t need to tell me. you sure seem to be a needy on who needs people to comment on everything. Fuck outta here with your annoying ass.

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