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They say sex can be a big problem in a relationship, that it won't work if there is no sexual harmony. That's why I'm asking this. If you are dissatisfied with your partner, could it be that important to the extent of threatening or damaging your relationship ?
| very important | 193 | |
| not important at all | 20 | |
| there's more than that | 111 |
33% Important.
For me, I like to feel desired, to be appreciated sexually. Without passion, the relationship becomes a purely platonic one.
I see your point. I'm still suffering in my situation, because my boyfriend doesn't seem to be sexually attracted by me. It is very frustrating to me, because I have the painful impression that I may not be desirable or I don't know. I mean, he seems to have sexual desires for me and enjoy everytime we're doing it, but he has never told me even once that he would like to make me love.. Even if he craved for me the first months of relationship. I am always the one that make the first step, insists on making love while he doesn't care to do it or not. He knows everything about that, but he doesn't change and probably never will. That's why I made this post in order to know if sex is a real big thing in a relationship.
Just hold out on sex for a while, I'll bet you anything he'll want want what he can't have and come begging for it.
Doubt that he isn't sexually attracted to you. Personally I have felt less sexually attracted at POINTS to the girl I was dating. It is more important that both of you are happy. You can't expect him to figure out everything in your head.
Tell him point blank that he has to initiate. If he doesn't well you're probably in trouble. This situation can improve it has to be worked on actively though. Relationships can survive without sex but is 100000% better with it working. Don't put words in his mouth though ask him.
It IS important, no one can deny that. Even though it surely is not the single most important thing.
yes yes it could. a crappy sex life with a partner can be damaging to your self-esteem, to your peace of mind, build resentments, encourage cheating, thoughts of revenge, etc. so i vote very important but there's definitely more than that
I think it really matters how important sex is to the individuals involved. I know guys that are satisfied with sex a few times a month and others who want it 20 times a week.
If you are having problems in the bedroom, you two need to talk openly about it and see if there isn't a way to improve things. That is, if you wish to salvage the relationship, a big question, for sure.
For many (most?) sex becomes pretty routine in a good, loving relationship after a time, unless the two of you communicate, experiment and work hard to keep that part alive and well.
My left hand and I have a very close relationship. **shoots ghost load**
It's all degrees. If you and your partner like infrequent boring sex, all will be well, but when one of you wants more... well, there's going to be trouble. Nothing's worse than being stuck in a relationship with all the crappy qualities of a marriage, with only the benefits of being roommates. And no amount of coaxing, support, compassion, love, or expression of your desires will get an uninterested partner to ever be on board. If the sex is crap and the other person doesn't care, they're more likely to consider the problem to be yours and not the other way around. I'm in a sexless marriage, it f'n sucks. If sex matters to you and it doesn't to your partner, dump them. Immediately.
I really can't understand the people who voted for "Not important at all"
Sex is very important..I dont want to be with someone that cant make my pussy wet, and cannot make me cum all over..anyone who says its not is lying!
Kind of up to the individuals to decide. But in all healthy relationships, there's WAY more to it than sex. And if a r'ship is built on how good sex is, or on a foundation of physical gratification and sex, then it's probably not going to last. Trust, honestly, friendship and being compatible in other ways is what makes r'ships last.
I think that if you two don't communicate probably on what you want, and if one is not having their needs met, well that could be a problem.