No, I said sexual encounter. When trying to count sexual partners you need an indicator of what you mean by partner, I used relationship. But you dismissed that as if I didn't acknowlede one night stands. That is still a relationship, if even only a 30 min one. So I pointed out the trouble with vague terms. Sorry I wasn't more clear about it. Would you like to misunderstand me again?
Oh, sorry, I understand now. When you talked about the length of relationships, I thought we were talking more along the lines of two weeks and up. I usually consider one night stands to just be sexual encounters, particularly if no one involved has any intention of having an ongoing relationship, while to me, the term relationship indicates some desire for romantic connection beyond just sex. I guess that's kind of an arbitrary distinction within my own head, though. But that's why I was confused.
Since I didn't consider that you were considering one night stands to be relationships, I interpreted your next reply to be a comparison of casual sex to sexual assault in terms of not counting as sexual partners, which I found offensive, since conflating non-consensual encounters with consensual encounters is obviously problematic. I understand what you meant now, though, so we're good.
I was just surprised that you felt the need to point out the fact that women have sex outside of relationships as if that was news to me. Why think that? It was a little condescending.
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No, I said sexual encounter. When trying to count sexual partners you need an indicator of what you mean by partner, I used relationship. But you dismissed that as if I didn't acknowlede one night stands. That is still a relationship, if even only a 30 min one. So I pointed out the trouble with vague terms. Sorry I wasn't more clear about it. Would you like to misunderstand me again?
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Oh, sorry, I understand now. When you talked about the length of relationships, I thought we were talking more along the lines of two weeks and up. I usually consider one night stands to just be sexual encounters, particularly if no one involved has any intention of having an ongoing relationship, while to me, the term relationship indicates some desire for romantic connection beyond just sex. I guess that's kind of an arbitrary distinction within my own head, though. But that's why I was confused.
Since I didn't consider that you were considering one night stands to be relationships, I interpreted your next reply to be a comparison of casual sex to sexual assault in terms of not counting as sexual partners, which I found offensive, since conflating non-consensual encounters with consensual encounters is obviously problematic. I understand what you meant now, though, so we're good.
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I was just surprised that you felt the need to point out the fact that women have sex outside of relationships as if that was news to me. Why think that? It was a little condescending.