Why would you choose to dress in a way that is going to get you bullied? That doesn't sound like anything other than someone seeking attention, no matter your true intent. If you can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen, but don't come on here complaining.
I have no doubt you could choose another path and be happier, because it sure doesn't sound like the one you've chosen is working very well for you.
Holy shit, you're an ass.. and bitter.. and stop trying to discuss bullying with someone years younger than you.
Don't come around here with that "monotone ol' man" mentality and judge someone, someone who is already bullied. I've never known someone who has been bullied, other than my brother -- and it's quite sad. As High School seems never-ending to youth.
You're probably old enough to be her father. I take it you do not have children (hopefully not) and have no idea of what goes on in schools of the past couple decades. (back in my day, slap em with a switch and wur all fine"... Says gypsy. Do not ramble without relative experience. It makes you look... how you do.
I really hate to see a comment like that, directed at a much younger person, whom is discussing being bullied of all things. It's like watching FoxNews with your grandparents and they babble about how the world was...scowling.
Just shut up. You're too old to be hovering this site all day, judging younger people's life choices. You preach enough half-wit wisdom already. It's actually annoying that you don't have much else to fill your down time. Damn ol' grumps. Don't you tie loose ends and find out the meaning of life, before you keel over?
He does have children and his advice is worth considering. The way you dress is a representation of who you are and people will treat you accordingly.
I am not condoning the "blame the victim" mentality but it's a thought worth considering before you walk out into public and wonder why on earth people are taking you for an overly emotional fuck-face.
It has children? Poor them. Poor "wife". If his children/child were bullied in this same manner and his response is, "Stop dressing that way, you want attention, you have no friends... It's your fault, just change for the bullies. Please."
Sounds pretty on point; emotionally vacant, self absorbed, absent parents.
If a kid has their own train of thoughts, personality, tastes (music, clothing, sexuality) they should not be told to conform and abide by the pressures to change who they are -- no, do not give in to a bully or their judgmental nonsense. They're angry self-serving people, who like to show off. Plenty of my gf's in school would use this sheep-like attitude and bully the odd girls. It took one moment in PE class, for me to leave "the pack" and approach this bullied girl (who always chose to draw, cowering)
I went up to her and asked to see her pictures, complimented her and told her to jog the next "mile" with me/us. After I began to walk back to my friends, suddenly 5 random girls -- and some of my "clique" walked over to her...one by one...to see her artwork as well. I laughed after, because all it takes sometimes is one person showing genuine interest and finding something interesting in someone; suddenly everyone followed after me. Some were patronizing her, some thought they needed to get in on this "good deed" as well.
Ultimately, mothers and fathers online? The last people who should be telling a bullied child "how to be" to get along, if that's their stance.
People can dress however they want to express their personalities. It's not to be summed up as, "well she asked for it". Do you all wear white shirts, overcoats and blue jeans/ slacks and think you're better? Or just trying really hard to conform and hopefully be accepted in public? I never understood why people actually judge others based on sole appearance..clothing wise, hair color. It has nothing to do with you.
She is bullied by her peers? Peers are dick-heads until you leave HS.
Well, you really do live up to your screen name,it seems.What makes you think bullying is all shiny new to your generation and that your problems are only of your generation?
Get a grip. Even in your wildest dreams of individuality, YOU ARE NOT! It's all been done before and it will all happen again.
You are just a spoiled little child trying to be different and finding the mainstream won't accept you if you want to play different. What bothers me about little shits like you who try so fucking hard to be different is why you are so desperate for the acceptance and the approval of those you are trying to be different from. You act so superior and holier than everybody else because you stand by your principles, but then come on sites like this crying your eyes out because nobody respects you dedication.
Wake up; nobody cares.
I´ve been made fun of for my style for the past ... hmm ... nine years.
If it has tought me anything it is that people are stupid and really not more than animals for judging people based on something as trivial as their style.
Mind you I am not a fan of emo´s myself but I would never tell one that it´s their own fault that they get bullied.
EVERYONE can get bullied, people will always find a reason to throw you down.
And people will always find a reason to throw themselves under the bus. It works both ways.
If you insist on your own style, then unless you are a total moron, you know you are making things tough on yourself, right? You are creating the situation you are complaining about, don't you see that?
You are unlikely to get that perfect job if you have 30 piercings and a few tats on your face and you know it when you apply. It sucks, but that is the way real life is, plain and simple.
You guys can't blame me for all this shit, I'm probably the least judgmental old guy you'll ever meet, but I'm also not going to pull any punches when I give my opinion.
I do not care how you dress or act. But I understand the repercussions of being different. I was a flower child in SF before the word hippie was coined. I understand exactly what you and the dumbelle are going through; I've been there. And I can sympathize. But I am not going to bullshit you either.
The dumbelle is every bit as negative, cruel and judgmental towards me as she complains everyone is toward her, so I have no respect for her at all. She is worse than those she complains about because she is two faced, whereas those she complains about are at least true to their beliefs.
She quite obviously can dish it out with the best of them, but just as obviously, she can't take it. That makes her a fake and a phony; one deserving of no respect or consideration.
I understand your point now. And when I get angry it is not at you because I am fully aware that everything you said in this reply is true but I get angry with society and the structure.
To me, it´s perfectly normal to form an opinon of a person based of their appearance ( I do that all the time) but I would never treat someone differently because of my own narrow-minded assumptions.
This, however, does not apply to everyone else. People older than me who should know better acts way more shitty than I did when I was like fifteen -_-
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Why would you choose to dress in a way that is going to get you bullied? That doesn't sound like anything other than someone seeking attention, no matter your true intent. If you can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen, but don't come on here complaining.
I have no doubt you could choose another path and be happier, because it sure doesn't sound like the one you've chosen is working very well for you.
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Holy shit, you're an ass.. and bitter.. and stop trying to discuss bullying with someone years younger than you.
Don't come around here with that "monotone ol' man" mentality and judge someone, someone who is already bullied. I've never known someone who has been bullied, other than my brother -- and it's quite sad. As High School seems never-ending to youth.
You're probably old enough to be her father. I take it you do not have children (hopefully not) and have no idea of what goes on in schools of the past couple decades. (back in my day, slap em with a switch and wur all fine"... Says gypsy. Do not ramble without relative experience. It makes you look... how you do.
I really hate to see a comment like that, directed at a much younger person, whom is discussing being bullied of all things. It's like watching FoxNews with your grandparents and they babble about how the world was...scowling.
Just shut up. You're too old to be hovering this site all day, judging younger people's life choices. You preach enough half-wit wisdom already. It's actually annoying that you don't have much else to fill your down time. Damn ol' grumps. Don't you tie loose ends and find out the meaning of life, before you keel over?
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He does have children and his advice is worth considering. The way you dress is a representation of who you are and people will treat you accordingly.
I am not condoning the "blame the victim" mentality but it's a thought worth considering before you walk out into public and wonder why on earth people are taking you for an overly emotional fuck-face.
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It has children? Poor them. Poor "wife". If his children/child were bullied in this same manner and his response is, "Stop dressing that way, you want attention, you have no friends... It's your fault, just change for the bullies. Please."
Sounds pretty on point; emotionally vacant, self absorbed, absent parents.
If a kid has their own train of thoughts, personality, tastes (music, clothing, sexuality) they should not be told to conform and abide by the pressures to change who they are -- no, do not give in to a bully or their judgmental nonsense. They're angry self-serving people, who like to show off. Plenty of my gf's in school would use this sheep-like attitude and bully the odd girls. It took one moment in PE class, for me to leave "the pack" and approach this bullied girl (who always chose to draw, cowering)
I went up to her and asked to see her pictures, complimented her and told her to jog the next "mile" with me/us. After I began to walk back to my friends, suddenly 5 random girls -- and some of my "clique" walked over to her...one by one...to see her artwork as well. I laughed after, because all it takes sometimes is one person showing genuine interest and finding something interesting in someone; suddenly everyone followed after me. Some were patronizing her, some thought they needed to get in on this "good deed" as well.
Ultimately, mothers and fathers online? The last people who should be telling a bullied child "how to be" to get along, if that's their stance.
People can dress however they want to express their personalities. It's not to be summed up as, "well she asked for it". Do you all wear white shirts, overcoats and blue jeans/ slacks and think you're better? Or just trying really hard to conform and hopefully be accepted in public? I never understood why people actually judge others based on sole appearance..clothing wise, hair color. It has nothing to do with you.
She is bullied by her peers? Peers are dick-heads until you leave HS.
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Well, you really do live up to your screen name,it seems.What makes you think bullying is all shiny new to your generation and that your problems are only of your generation?
Get a grip. Even in your wildest dreams of individuality, YOU ARE NOT! It's all been done before and it will all happen again.
You are just a spoiled little child trying to be different and finding the mainstream won't accept you if you want to play different. What bothers me about little shits like you who try so fucking hard to be different is why you are so desperate for the acceptance and the approval of those you are trying to be different from. You act so superior and holier than everybody else because you stand by your principles, but then come on sites like this crying your eyes out because nobody respects you dedication.
Wake up; nobody cares.
I´ve been made fun of for my style for the past ... hmm ... nine years.
If it has tought me anything it is that people are stupid and really not more than animals for judging people based on something as trivial as their style.
Mind you I am not a fan of emo´s myself but I would never tell one that it´s their own fault that they get bullied.
EVERYONE can get bullied, people will always find a reason to throw you down.
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And people will always find a reason to throw themselves under the bus. It works both ways.
If you insist on your own style, then unless you are a total moron, you know you are making things tough on yourself, right? You are creating the situation you are complaining about, don't you see that?
You are unlikely to get that perfect job if you have 30 piercings and a few tats on your face and you know it when you apply. It sucks, but that is the way real life is, plain and simple.
You guys can't blame me for all this shit, I'm probably the least judgmental old guy you'll ever meet, but I'm also not going to pull any punches when I give my opinion.
I do not care how you dress or act. But I understand the repercussions of being different. I was a flower child in SF before the word hippie was coined. I understand exactly what you and the dumbelle are going through; I've been there. And I can sympathize. But I am not going to bullshit you either.
The dumbelle is every bit as negative, cruel and judgmental towards me as she complains everyone is toward her, so I have no respect for her at all. She is worse than those she complains about because she is two faced, whereas those she complains about are at least true to their beliefs.
She quite obviously can dish it out with the best of them, but just as obviously, she can't take it. That makes her a fake and a phony; one deserving of no respect or consideration.
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I understand your point now. And when I get angry it is not at you because I am fully aware that everything you said in this reply is true but I get angry with society and the structure.
To me, it´s perfectly normal to form an opinon of a person based of their appearance ( I do that all the time) but I would never treat someone differently because of my own narrow-minded assumptions.
This, however, does not apply to everyone else. People older than me who should know better acts way more shitty than I did when I was like fifteen -_-