The ability to communicate to someone that you actually love and care for them is a common issue. He may be telling you that in his way - and you may be telling him that in your way... and you both are missing it because your "love languages" are different. Kinda like someone who speaks only French talking to someone who speaks only Russian.
I suggest you get and read "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman (there is a teenage, and senior versions as well).
It works best if you get 2 copies and ask them to read it too (and one of you likely reads faster than the other...; but all interested should be able to get through the book in 2 weeks or less).
When I read it I learned so much - and realized exactly why most of my previous relationships failed. My GF at the time read it and found the same - and told me: "so there is a real chance this would work out between us" (we then married - coming up on 9 years in April).
Now if he is not willing to read the book to improve his relationship with you... and other future GF's if the two of you don't match in other ways. Run, don't walk away; and never look back. Find someone who is willing to work on making it work.
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The ability to communicate to someone that you actually love and care for them is a common issue. He may be telling you that in his way - and you may be telling him that in your way... and you both are missing it because your "love languages" are different. Kinda like someone who speaks only French talking to someone who speaks only Russian.
I suggest you get and read "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman (there is a teenage, and senior versions as well).
It works best if you get 2 copies and ask them to read it too (and one of you likely reads faster than the other...; but all interested should be able to get through the book in 2 weeks or less).
When I read it I learned so much - and realized exactly why most of my previous relationships failed. My GF at the time read it and found the same - and told me: "so there is a real chance this would work out between us" (we then married - coming up on 9 years in April).
Now if he is not willing to read the book to improve his relationship with you... and other future GF's if the two of you don't match in other ways. Run, don't walk away; and never look back. Find someone who is willing to work on making it work.