Have to do it directly and with no question. If the nice guy routine doesn't work, get mean. I had a server woman at the sports bar I go to, really working on me, and I had zero interest. Not a hint. I let her down easy around New Year's Eve, when she cuddled up to me and said "Oh..Who am I going to kiss at midnight?" and I said..I dunno, I'll be home.
Then maybe 2 months ago, I was there and she was off her shift, so sat next to me for a drink. She asked "If I asked you out, right now, and offered myself to you, what would you say?". At that point, my brain thought..Take care of this now..She's not taking the nice no for an answer.
I turned to her, at first joking, saying "I try not to shit where I eat", meaning, she works there, I go there, and if things went bad, it would be a tough situation. Then, hit her with the truthful "I'd say no, and, that's the final answer. I'm not interested, ok?". She briefly went off about "skinny women", and I restated..I'm just not interested in you, period. She's arrogant, mean, aggressive..And hiding a lot of pain. I get that. Ran away from an abusive husband, her kid has health issues, and most relationships she has end up bad. She takes it out on people in all the wrong ways. Comes off as the disgusting, angry big chick.. It doesn't work, and I want no part of it.
How do you tell a woman you don't want to date her?
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Have to do it directly and with no question. If the nice guy routine doesn't work, get mean. I had a server woman at the sports bar I go to, really working on me, and I had zero interest. Not a hint. I let her down easy around New Year's Eve, when she cuddled up to me and said "Oh..Who am I going to kiss at midnight?" and I said..I dunno, I'll be home.
Then maybe 2 months ago, I was there and she was off her shift, so sat next to me for a drink. She asked "If I asked you out, right now, and offered myself to you, what would you say?". At that point, my brain thought..Take care of this now..She's not taking the nice no for an answer.
I turned to her, at first joking, saying "I try not to shit where I eat", meaning, she works there, I go there, and if things went bad, it would be a tough situation. Then, hit her with the truthful "I'd say no, and, that's the final answer. I'm not interested, ok?". She briefly went off about "skinny women", and I restated..I'm just not interested in you, period. She's arrogant, mean, aggressive..And hiding a lot of pain. I get that. Ran away from an abusive husband, her kid has health issues, and most relationships she has end up bad. She takes it out on people in all the wrong ways. Comes off as the disgusting, angry big chick.. It doesn't work, and I want no part of it.