How do you put your life back together

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I have had two super bad experiences and since then I have been constantly trying to put my life back together but just can't do it. I would love to be in a relationship one day with a woman but I can't let myself trust women that are not my family members.

If women in public look at me I feel scared and if they get too close to me it freaks me out and I move away. If I am talked to by women I freak out and want to end the conversation and get away as fast as I can. When I am in public I just feel get away from me... get away from me... leave me alone..

I have found myself avoiding going out in public and only leave the house when I have to. I have even canceled plans and not gone out and done things I wanted to do in my efforts to avoid being in public. When I do go out in public I feel like I want to get stuff done as fast as I can, I can't relax and if anything holds me up I feel very impatient about it and uncomfortable.

This has been going on for nearly two years now. I know if I ever want to be in a relationship I need to learn to trust again.

Please don't judge me, I can't help it after everything that has happened I have been left scarred. I am looking for honest advice so if your going to make fun of me then please don't. There is always reasons why people feel the way they do and I do not mean to come across as offensive or anything.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

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    By writing down these experiences at length, you take them out of the anxiety, fight or flight part of your brain. You set your life in stone--and that's much more comfortable. You need to clarify and only then can you move on.

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  • SmokeEverything
    6 years ago

    Guess youve got to start dating relatives then, as many who use this site do

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  • Knightmare
    6 years ago

    Anxiety issues of some kind... They suck.

    I'd consider going to counseling. But just talking about it can help too. That's most of what they do anyway.

    I hope you don't mind me asking, but what is it that bothers you? Are you saying you've had bad experiences with women before? Can you say what you're afraid of?

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    I think you somehow need to socialise with women who you're doing some activity with.. Something in common to share that makes you forget that you're man and woman, but just humans sharing an activity. That should ease you into the 'shallow end' of interaction with the opposite sex. Not sure what though.. Are you into any art or music things? Or sports maybe?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I love photography. I have noticed I have been felt like drinking way more since this has been going on. :(

      I have had a thought tough but not sure if I would say?

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome
    6 years ago

    It sounds like you may suffer from agoraphobia but also social anxiety.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Yeah I think I do suffer from agoraphobia and suffer from a massive fear of women that are outside my family.

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