How do you know if you are trans?

What age did mist people become solid on their identity? How did you know? What makes someome trans? How do you represent yourself to the world? Btw mid 20s

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  • LloydAsher

    I honestly think it’s a mental delusion on par with anorexia. Just because you are thinking one way doesn’t mean you have to change everything inside your body. I sincerely hope these people seek mental help besides cutting off and giving themselves drugs just to change how they were born because of their mental state.

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    • yoonji

      i also think that being trans is a mental disorder but trans people have tried therapy with absolutely no results, but transitioning can make trans people so much more comfortable and happy. so just think of medical transitioning as treatment.

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      • Bad101

        I agree just like body dysmorthia, but doesn't mean I think it's a bad thing or that I'm "transphobic" lol I just don't see how one can get cosmetic surgery as treatment and the other doesn't. Why not give it to both hm? Why is someone's reality of them self ruled over the rest?
        But I'm not gonna stop adults doing what they want to themselves, I'm just putting out questions and personal views. I just want them to really leave kids out of it.

        If I had a kid who suffered from gender dysphoria I would do the treatment with no physical side effects first (take them to a psychologist).
        Since most grow out of it according to this study: https://www.transgendertrend.com/children-change-minds/
        (Link to study inside the web page summary)

        And if that doesn't work after they mature to an age where they can make their own desisions. I would just show them all the dangers and side effects of puberty blockers and hormone therapy, before I let them make their permanent decision: https://www.rxlist.com/lupron-side-effects-drug-center.htm#
        (^Puperty blockers side effects)
        And hormone replacement therapy (originally and still used on menopause women and some cancer patients I think.) Has a huge chance of making the person infertile and increase risk in cancer with prolong use.

        Lol that's just my plan so I can avoid losing a child to it(suicide), since you can't 100% transition back if you 100% transition into the gender. And even then I still gotta also remind them that it's still not 100% biological just cosmetic and hormonal changes in this decade. Who knows maybe we can change chromosomes in the future, that would be very fucking helpful for alot of genetic disorders.

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    • curious-bunny

      Trust me it's not a decision we make lightly. It's like an investment. Imagine buying a car or gun or whatever your cup of tea is that is the one of your dreams the. Imagine paying for it for the rest of your life and forever being judged an hate and having your life put at risk of it. Would you make that purchase lightly? So before you go judging just think about that.

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      • Bad101

        Isn't investing in something still a choice tho? Lol

        But dude you didn't even disprove how it's not a mental illness in your reply.

        You know people "invest"/choose to cover their body in tatts in Japan but it's a huge stigma over there. (I've been there with tatts and fucking regretted it haha)
        And have you heard of the Stalking cat? Used alot of plastic surgery to try and mimic a real cat. So "invest"/choose to look like a cat.

        You as an adult can do what ever the fuck you want(people being different doesn't bother me, but to change my personal views and others, then you gotta have some solid facts). But if you care about how people view you then counter with facts. Lol
        Or just do you and ignore the haters.

        Not hating on you, just bored and curious about this chat lol.

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        • curious-bunny

          My point being the investment is your happiness. You'll be happier and more sane than youvevever been in your whole life having gone through eith it even with the additional hardships. It's an investment man. Its not something done lighlty so don't treat it as such

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          • Bad101

            Ah cool at least your making your self happy. Lol

            Hey don't get me wrong what made you think I would treat it lightly. I just stated others people's business isn't in my interest unless it involves physical harm(mental harm if I personal know them, matters to me tho) or babies and kids.
            Just pointing out that it's a choice as well. But it makes you happy that's fine I don't mind either way no one's getting hurt.

            Like the big choice for my tatts have them for a different meaning then just to make me happy. Tributing them to family and such.
            It's okay to have different views on this subject(views I haven't even gone in depth in because who cares lol. Don't see nothing wrong with what your doing), but I let people have their freedom to do whatever. I just fuck around in post sometimes. Lol

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        • mauzi

          Woah, chill out with the alts bro.

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          • Bad101

            That's a fucking lazy dumb reply "bro".
            I'm not loyld wtf! I even have different views from him! And a history on this sight. Not an alt, but hey let me use your logic so you'll understand. Haha

            "Chill out on the alts brah"

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            • mauzi

              Nah your post had +4 in like 2 minutes on a dead topic, and i've seen you comment on my posts with your alts before lmao
              wtf is loyld?

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  • IrishPotato

    How does anyone know they're sick?

    You get diagnosed.

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    • found out I had appendicitis’s after the third day of not moving due to excruciating pain in my side. Mom thought I was lying.

      Nah, my appendix ruptured and my guts were being covered in bile and infection.

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      • IrishPotato

        Glad you went and got diagnosed.

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        • Agreed, my mom felt really bad afterwards

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          • LloydAsher

            Because she almost killed her own kid?

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  • Dot123

    When you have a mental illness. IT IS MA'AM!

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  • If a duck is raised by wolfs it probably thinks its a wolf. Kind of like that movie called babe. With the pig that acts like a dog and sings la la laaaa https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrWY6xkvg8o

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  • Holzman_67

    When you find yourself walking down the middle of a main road giving people piggyback rides
    Oh sorry that’s trams

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    Transgenderism is just a trend that people are going to look back at and laugh at in 10 years. Its ridiculous. You'll never look like a girl no matter how much money you spend. Youll look like a cross dresser.

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  • Vvaas

    honestly you just kind of know. i knew when i was just a young child, of course i didn't know the word transgender or what it meant but i felt uncomfortable in my own body and felt different from all the other girls. i was never feminine in the slightest and no matter how much my mum tried forcing me to act like a female i always fought back. as a young child i always wondered why boys could act like boys and i couldn't, why i didn't have a penis, i felt back then that it wasn't fair.

    when i understood what the word transgender meant it kind of just clicked in me that that's what i was, i was around 12 at that time. i wanted to transition, but after researching it further and hearing about people who transition but regret it later on i decided to sit back for a few years to make sure it was really what i wanted and that i wouldn't change my mind a year or two later. i never changed my mind during the wait, and now i'm going to go through my transition.

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    • LloydAsher

      It’s not about how you precive yourself transitioning isn’t like debating on getting a puppy you are making unrepairable augments to your body when it should be focused on your brain.

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      • Vvaas

        transgender people feel happier and more confident when transitioning however because of society. if you were born female and feel more like a man but you don't change your appearance, society is going to look at and treat you as a female and not the gender you prefer which is obviously going to take a toll on that persons mental health because everyone is automatically assuming they are female because that's what they look like. the reason transgender's change their appearance is so they can be socially accepted and feel better about themselves instead of constantly being misgendered.

        there is no pills or medicine that will cure transgender people, the only cure is transition and hormone treatment which professional psychiatrists and mental health workers support and agree on as the only optimal treatment.

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        • LloydAsher

          What about the 16x greater risk of suicide. I perfer if people get their brains sorted and fixed before they try to "fix” their bodies. It’s all the same anorexia body disphoria. Don’t feed the delusion force them to see the truth.
          And before the gay argument comes up homosexualy appears just as often in the animal kingdom. On the otherhand dismorphia seems to be a human only kind of problem, possibly due to increased social nature.

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          • Vvaas

            that's true and the high suicide rate should be taken into consideration, however the majority of transgender people who transition then regret it later on and try to take their lives often went through the transition too quickly without putting much thought into it or too much time to think it over and wait. since transgender people are seen more often/are generally getting more socially accepted there's a trend that's been started that calling yourself transgender is something "cool" or "interesting" to do just for the fun of it.

            it's similar to the people who might read a list of symptoms online of a mental disorder and relate to a couple and automatically assume they have it and self-diagnose themselves. transitioning shouldn't be taken lightly as you've said because it's literally altering your body, in my opinion if someone seeks out a doctor because they want to transition there should be at least a year waiting time to make sure that person doesn't change their mind a few months later down the line or regret it. there are many people who assume they're "transgender" when they actually aren't.

            you can't compare anorexia to being transgender. being anorexic is literally killing yourself slowly, while being transgender you are not inflicting self-harm or injury to yourself. being transgender isn't going to kill you. the thing is there is no "fix" for a transgender person brains. there's no magical surgery or medicine that'll suddenly make that person think they're not transgender anymore, it doesn't work like that.

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            • LloydAsher

              Yes because removing a biological and reproductive feature isnt destructive to ones health. It’s the same as anorexia because of how the brain precives how the body should be rather than what the body actually is.
              Medical science is making strides I’ll give it 10 years or so until the proper corrective therapy is in order, maybe it’s drugs maybe it’s linking the proper electrodes to the brain.

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  • bubblegumz

    It really depends on the person. Some people "just know" from a young age. Some people might not realize it until some "aha!" moment. Some people have to do a lot of soul searching to figure it out. It's different for every person, and very personal.
    For myself, I didn't "feel" like my assigned gender for a long time, but I thought I was just one of those people who didn't fit inside the gender norms.

    Over time, I started to realize the distress that came every time I was referred to as or thought of myself as my assigned at birth gender. Honestly, as a kid I thought that being trans was some kind of "rare" thing, like I couldn't possibly be trans because most people aren't trans or something. I don't really know where that came from honestly. But when was a teenager and I first discovered that there was an option other than "girl" or "boy," it felt like I'd been holding my breath my whole life and I'd finally learned how to breathe. Even then, I suppose I didn't really "know" yet, either. I tried out a lot of identity words, names, and pronouns, kind of like trying out a bunch of shirts at the store until you find the one that you like the best/that makes you happiest.

    After a few years of soul searching and finding the right words to describe my experience, but I am so much happier and less stressed now that I am who I am, and now that I don't feel like I'm hiding some part of me from myself. I feel comfortable with myself for the first time. That's how I know, I guess.

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  • WarriorGene

    Now that they closed Sachsenhausen, we can't make such accurate diagnosis anymore.

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  • xxLucifer

    Do you have gender dysphoria? If not then you aren't transgender.

    Gender Dysphoria is a diagnosable condition in which a person experiences distress due to the felling their biological gender doesn't match their gender identity. Under DSM-5 to be diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria you have to experience two of the following criteria for at least 6 months:

    -A strong desire to be of a gender other than one's assigned gender
    -A strong desire to be treated as a gender other than one's assigned gender
    -A significant incongruence between one's experienced or expressed gender and one's sexual characteristics
    -A strong desire for the sexual characteristics of a gender other than one's assigned gender
    -A strong desire to be rid of one's sexual characteristics due to incongruence with one's experienced or expressed gender
    -A strong conviction that one has the typical reactions and feelings of a gender other than one's assigned gender

    Also you must have a clinically significant level of distress or impairment due to it.

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  • SwickDinging

    Most trans people I have met made the change quite late on in their lives. But then again most of them said they felt like they wanted to transition from a very young age, but didn't for various reasons.

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  • anonymous560

    Maybe when you get to the dating part and you seem like you don't like the other gender then mayyyybeeeeee...

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  • SKDM007

    when you hate having a penis and dont watch porn

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  • curious-bunny

    It's a complicated matter of self perception. Generally it's just something you know. It's usually a matter of acceptibg it rsther than figuring it out. It's like an ephiany were you see your very soul and everything makes sense at once.

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    • IrishPotato

      You don't know that you're the other gender because you weren't born that way and there is no possible way for you to gave any idea what it's like to be something you're not.

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      • Nikclaire

        How do you know what someone else feels? I'm a girl and I prefer being with other women. I know this to my soul. I don't know anything about transgenderism and neither do you. Please let me know how you think you know what someone else feels in their heart.

        Trans is odd to me, it actually annoys me sometimes but I don't have a clue about it. Do you??

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        • mauzi

          Role playing as a girl online is a lot like being trans, so I think you know more about it than you give yourself credit for. “I know this in my soul” is a very common justification. It makes sense that you are annoyed and confused by your frustration with the male body that you were born into and the lack of female attention you get in reality, which is apparent from the abusive behavior you tend to display while hiding in the safety of anonymity.

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          • IrishPotato

            "Role playing as a girl"
            What

            The rest of your comment is pretty funny and ever so slightly ironic.

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            • mauzi

              The user I was replying to is a man who likes pretending to be a girl on this website, usually to beg for either sexual attention or pity. They also frequently become abusive when they don't get their way.

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        • curious-bunny

          Exactly! I could hug you right now

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        • IrishPotato

          I don't know what they feel, but I do know a human being isn't capable of knowing how something feels when they haven't felt it.

          I also know it's medically diagnosed as gender dysphoria, and things being diagnosed need to be cured, not celebrated.

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          • Yeah that’s like trying to think up a color that you’ve never seen.

            You can’t.

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          • Nikclaire

            When it comes to the mind, the medical community is rubbing sticks together and have yet to produce a flame.

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      • Nikclaire

        Honestly how do you know there is any difference, using your own logic, between a what man feels and what a woman does? Have you been both ever?

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        • IrishPotato

          Do you know what it's like to be a cat?

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          • Nikclaire

            How bout answering my question first?

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    • LloydAsher

      Yes but self perception and reality are two separate things I don’t honestly care about this if it’s for adults, But seriously I don’t like it from a physical standpoint. but recently this has been dripping into the issue of children and their "trans rights" kids are both stupid and innocent if I can’t trust a kid to make proper decisions when they are 16 how the hell am I going to allow them to fuck over their natural body processes?

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      • Nikclaire

        How do you define reality if not through perception?

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      • curious-bunny

        Because I've been ready to start transition since I was 5 years old. When you are trans you know. And it makes a huge difference having that ignored. If I was a lesser person I would of been one of those murder suicide kids you hear about. But im not a lesser person and I'm bloody patient. You have no idea the pathological damage it causes when your trans and ignored and forced to live as something your not

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        • leggs91200

          I imagine some of the suicidal maniac kids are trans but have no outlet.
          However, i would imagine most of them are upset because they spend their entire waking life on a video game and then wonder why they don't have a girlfriend.

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  • leggs91200

    When you decide you would rather present and socialize as a female instead of male.
    Some say it happens around age five. I remember liking girls stuff at that age but my only real memories of that age were of day care and thinking, "Is nap time over yet?"

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    • wonderwizard123

      What about the other way around

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