How do you break off a best friend relationship?

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They're nice to me but we have heated arguments bad especially vegan ones. I'm a vegan she's not and this is a huge deal because I'm cool with her eating meat in front of me but she has made comments on Facebook I can see them where she says "of course they're a vegan" and "I don't support vegans" and it gets us into an argument where we end up shouting at each other. I also organize vegan events and because she doesn't support veganism she doesn't come to any and it hurts me I feel like it's toxic to be best friends with her. It was a 9 year relationship and it was amazing but the last argument was when she finally did come to a vegan event she made a comment saying she still doesn't know how anyone could be a vegan and we fought in public argued in front of the other people there who were vegans.

We haven't spoke in two days because I told her to call an Uber and she left while I stayed. I can't be friends with her anymore she is against vegans and I'm vegan so it doesn't work. I've been a vegan for 3 years and vegetarian since birth.

How do I end this because I know she will call me and then we will argue again I just want her the hell away from me

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    2 years ago

    Let me pre-face this by saying that I'm in a romantic relationship with a vegan, whilst I am not. It works out just fine, and we've agreed to accept each other's choices for what they are. When I have a BBQ, I make sure she has something to eat that isn't just meat, milk, etc. If she invites me for dinner somewhere, we go to a place with both options, and neither of us will complain about it unless it's obnoxious.

    Having said that, I think you and your friend could patch things up, if you guys have the patience for it; certainly would be shitty to quit a best friend relation if it can be salvaged.

    If you really wanna break this off, then consider talking it out in person one last time. Look each other in the eye and admit openly that you guys are not good for each other. That you can't handle her the way she behaves around you and that you're very sorry about this situation. Just for the record, you don't have to blame yourself, or her; friends sometimes grow apart and that's okay. If you're meant to meet again in life, you will. Also, especially if you're saying goodbye to one another, don't make it anymore painful for yourself or your ex-friend than it has to be. I hope this helps; I've been a in a similar situation for different reasons, so I felt like giving the advice that I wanted to hear back then.

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