How do i tell him im submissive?

Im submissive, but super shy. I dunno how to tell him. I feel like he wouldnt be accepting of how i feel. I want him to own me and tell me what to do, it doesnt matter if it is out of the bedroom or not. Im really scared.

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Comments ( 10 )
  • Dee76

    Be confident of your self. I did it.

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  • barrysbigbeanbag

    Open your legs!

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  • captain_redclaw

    it can be scarey to tell ur bf how u like it but be upfront with him other wise you may never get the satisfaction you need. worst case scenario he says hes not inot that sorta thing

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  • RandomAccount23

    Being straight forward is the best to avoid them not understanding what you want but some people can't handle being forceful on others so keep that in mind too.

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  • randypete

    get on your knees and suck his cock

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  • RoseIsabella

    Ugh. This is bullshit! BDSM is bullshit! If this dude is not into it he can tell you no, he has no obligation to humor you and this bullshit.

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  • bubsy

    Act feminine and charming, and encourage him to assert his dominance. If you're shy then just be more subtle about it. He ought to figure it out over time.

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    • CreamPuffs

      No, being direct is the best way to go.

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      • bubsy

        You want OP to be direct about being submissive? Don't see a contradiction in there?

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        • CreamPuffs

          Nope, I don't. I'm not saying she should force her submissiveness apon him, I'm saying she should be open and honest about her feelings and what she's into to him. After all, isn't exposing your inner kinky desires to your loved one a submissive thing to do? Isn't an open and honest submissive a good submissive? It is not un-submissive to be direct unless your directness is about say, your demands. The idea that it's a contradiction is a complete falsity. A submissive can be shy, but they cannot allow their shyness to mar their relationship with the Dominant individual. If she is only hinting to her Dominant that she is submissive, he will not have important knowledge that a D/s relationship needs to survive, like for example: How far can his control go? Is she masochistic? What are specific kinks she likes? What is she willing to do for him? And it's not just about him. If she is not direct about her submission, how will she learn what would please her Dominant the most? At best she could find out gradually what he's into and what he doesn't like, regarding both sexual activities and day-to-day activities, but it's more efficient for everyone involved if he is directly informed that she would like to be his submissive one if that's what he's into.

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