How do i stop trying to read peoples minds

I have anxiety and I need full control over everything and everyone 24/7. I didnt know this myself but i've had it pointed out. I wont do anything if I dont to at least 90% certainty know the precise outcome and the fact that I wont get hurt or die and I wont contact or talk to someone unless I know with at least 90% certainty that they wont think i'm dumb, desperate, clingy, weird, annoying or pathetic.

I have sat for a very long time trying to decide if I can contact a person I stopped talking to a few months ago because we got into a bad period between us and argued a lot but i've wanted to clear things but ive been busy trying to figure out if it's possible he will find me pathetic I need my image to be free of that.

I'm always trying to stay away from such labels to any means necessary by carefully constructing everything I say. It has worked well so far. People think i'm detached but at least they dont think i'm pathetic and clingy.

I have sent a friend request to this person I need to speak to to see if we can clear things up but immadiately afterwards I logged off. He better not think anything negative about it or i'll have to take weeks to get over it and work on being more detached.

I cant believe he might have seen the request and is sitting RIGHT NOW thinking that I care. That might make him feel important and I ABSOLUTELY cannot have that I cant feed his ego he might think he has power over me then and I need the upper power. Yes its pretty messedd up probably and ive lost people from my life due to it but at least no one thinks I care too much and are pathetic.

Is It Normal?
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  • You can't even read anyones mind.

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    • You'd be surprised

      I get a lot of looks like "omg are you reading my mind"

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      • “What the fuck are you looking at cunty”

        Is what they’re actually thinking.

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        • I rather think that's a projection of your attitude on other people

          What I'm talking about is observing eye language and facial cues, a lot of things with a lot of depth especially as you progress

          Only to the lay person does it seem foolish

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  • Somewhat normal, because people have social anxiety problems, and tell other ones about it in there own weird way.But there is a lot of void in the information. don't worry everyone is weird in there own way
    1. What do you mean by reading peoples mind?
    2. why people always play double or nothing?
    3. What information you want as an answer for your question?
    4. Is this a question, what's the question?

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    • Why do words go like automatic??

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    • I try to imagine how they will react and I dont speak to people if I cant succeed because I dont know how anyone thinks so I never speak to people because I dont know their reaction !

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  • It sounds like a really unhealthy view. Something you should work on. When I get a friend request I never think about power structures or whatever. I doubt anyone else does but you.

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    • Maybe. It is exhausting to be me

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  • How exactly is this related to mind reading anyways?

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  • You are a puppet of the Extraterrestrials, and the consciousness of television sets.

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  • You do realise that when people add others in Facebook, they just go into the ever increasing pile of people they barely talk to, right? Nobody means anything to anyone on that site.

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    • Yeah if you dont know them and im not talking about FB ! This is a person I know close !

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  • So what? You are good at reading people. You can use it as a skill to idk barter better.

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  • Sympatico!

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  • But I try

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