How do i know if im ugly?

I dont know if im ugly or beautiful because its hard for me to tell as I cant find the beautiful bits about me but I find it easy to pick up the ugly bits.

Im pale, suffer from acne, insecure about my facial hair, only been called ugly twice in my life or maybe more (mainly from arguments with my brother) I've only been told once that I should be a model by a woman, a crush told me once that im beautiful (i dont know if hes just saying it because hes in a good mood), others dont say anything bad or good about me they just keep quiet. I have a pretty good personality its just the outside and my appearance im worried about.

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  • Iszzy123

    You go on omingle and see how fast they press the end chat butten

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  • Emokate

    Don't worry. Looks can change. Just be a nice person cause that goes further than anything else.

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    • Alichael

      That's true. And have a good sense of humor and don't be tense or awkward, that helps a lot. With the very shallow people though, they won't be able to get past looks. But they're not worth it.

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg

    Don't worry being attractive can be a bitch because you end up with a lot of shallow people interested in you.

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  • AngelLoc

    I feel you. I also suffer from really bad acne and i was pretty insecure. There was a time when I stopped caring and i felt so much better. I told myself “you know what, if they don’t like you just because they think you’re ugly then they’re not worth it. Stay away from those people”. I felt a weight was lifted from shoulders. Just be yourself. If your acne bothers you, take extra good care of your skin, but do it for yourself and not for anyone’s approval. I’m still a bit insecure (i think thats pretty normal but it’s not healthy to be insecure about every little thing) but I’m much better than before. I’m still working on it. Take good care of your mental health as well. Good luck:)

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    • Thanks :) hey just wondering... do you have any advice or tips on how you cope with the acne? thanks again

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      • AngelLoc

        Sure!:) So after a lot experimenting with different products (as well as suffering many consequences lol). You have to find a facial wash that is low in pH (because our skin have low pH) I used to use soap that are high in pH which dries my skin too much and of course dry skin = too much sebum production = breakouts. When I started using this, my skin doesn’t feel tight and dry but it still gives me that clean feeling. So I started doing these steps 1: low pH facial cleanser—>2: AHA/BHA toner —> 3: oil-free Moisturizer. (They are all CosRx brands). However, I have to warn you tho, although these products really worked for me, they broke out some people. So you may want to do some more research before switching to these products. Good luck!

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  • Nickvey

    ugly know who they are, you dont have to tell them . but about that acne , doctors will lie to you about the reason. its seed oils , not some of them,all of them . the seed oils are the precursors to inflammatory prostaglandins . they cause the acne. Doctors will not cross the line and admit it because the FDA regulates doctors via food and drugs

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  • EnglishLad

    Basically, women place stupidly high standards of beauty upon themselves.

    Everyone sees pictures of stunning women in magazines that have been photoshopped/airbrushed to the max and therefore their figures are impossible to achieve in real life.

    Beauty is subjective. If you think you're ugly, you'll become depressed, potentially bulimic or anorexic, and maybe even suicidal/dead. If you appreciate what's on the inside of you more, you'll probably feel better about yourself.

    If your man calls you beautiful, accept the compliment.

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    • Yeah sadly... I have no man hahaha, been single all my life lol.
      And yeah thanks, your right, I need to appreciate the inside of me more, I can see myself feeling better after doing so.

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  • maakk

    ugly to who ? by societies standards 99.9% of us are "ugly" Beauty is in the eye of the beholder . I think my husband is the best looking man I have ever seen and some have disagreed. Having acne does not automatically make someone ugly <3 lots of people have acne and are loved by someone the best people in the world are not shallow and if you think your being ignored because of acne then count your self lucky that the shallow ones are avoiding you anyways like for instance i think channing tatum is "ugly" he resembles a weasle or opossium to me , but thats just my opnion most woman think hes all that but not me anyways all in all Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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  • I need to know if you're a woman, so I can write libidinous things about you. Ok, seriously, you will be surprised to find out how many men would actually love being with "ugly" women. What most men call "ugly", I actually find really pretty, and I am not lying one bit. What I also noticed is that men who are very picky and selective are also insecure about their own look and tend to be less trustworthy, since they are superficial. I believe that when you question yourself things like this and feel bad about yourself, you should also investigate a bit the people you spend time with. They play a key role in defining the way you think. If they are superficial and call you ugly, you will end up considering this as well. If you hang out with people who are very confident, trustworthy and positive, you will end up feeling the same. Studies show that women who look at magazines about fashion feel sad or depressed because they get worried of their own look in comparison to the models presented there. If I were you, I would personally leave this worry aside for a while and carefully consider my habits. If these contain activities that seem to damage my own self-esteem I would eliminate them and then after a while, reconsider this issue again. If it persists and I really get in trouble finding someone to consider me attractive, then I might consider it is indeed the case I am "ugly". From the way you formulate it, you seem to have no such problems, so I strongly incline to believe you are totally out of such a bubble of "ugliness", and your problem is just in your mind.

    To exemplify, in school I was listening to guys talking about girls. And most of them were so picky and gossiping about a lot of things I really found nonsensical. Then I joined a kickboxing club, and the guys there were so different. They were always talking about how attractive specific women are. I tried to make a joke in the way guys used to do at school, and they attacked me immediately like "Why are you such a pussy judging people?
    Do you think you're better? There's nothing wrong with this person". From that moment I understood what a bunch of pathetic losers most dudes at school were and I spent time only with the guys from the sporting clubs I joined, forming my mentality in such a great way. Make sure you know your group well. This means more this your own physical aspect.

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    • Love this! The models, magazine and fashion bit was 100% truth and it explains alot about how Im feeling. I now believe that the ugly is just in my head. Thanks :) You have given me hope!

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  • nannysue123

    your perfect the way you are xx

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  • Karlmarxman

    Ugly and beautiful are concepts made by humans. Fuck em and be you, fuck societys standards. Change society for the better by not sticking to the norm.

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    • Yeah... Normal is boring :)

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  • Mark92

    I think you are fine, just over concerned with looks. Looks dont matter much, tbh, and dont let others judge you, be who you think you are...

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  • McBean

    It's hard to know how ugly you are. I once decided I would find out. So, I submitted pictures to a online dating service where you rate other people's pictures. Women rate men, and men rated women. On a scale of 1 to 10, I was a 1.5. Wow man, pretty ugly. At least I had confirmed what I always suspected.

    As an ugly person, you learn how to stand alone. You also learn how to generate your own karma. Intrinsic motivation is pretty much your own game. Play it right and you feel like you have momentum working for you.

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    • nikkiclaire

      1.5?? Wow dude, sorry.

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      • McBean

        Well, we can still be friends. I will be courteous and cover my face so you don't have to look at me.

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        • nikkiclaire

          It doesn't bother me. In fact some people are so ugly they are cute.

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          • McBean

            :-)

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    • But what if taking pictures looked worser than in real life? Everytime I take a pic I look different and horrible.

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      • McBean

        Then take a selfie in a mirror. Imagine you are talking to a hot guy. Imagine you want to do dirty things to him. Projecting sexuality sometimes works as well as projecting beauty.

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        • Hahaha I do do that sometimes actually lol.

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          • P.s your really brave, I wouldn't have been able to let people rate me because I would be scared to see the results.

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            • McBean

              Yeh, well brutal honesty hurts sometimes. But, I know I have a good heart, and I know I am a kind man. I have been told I have a very warm sense of touch. So you know what? Maybe beauty is something you keep in your heart.

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  • requestdatastream

    If you're not sure, you're probably in the 5-7 range.

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    • 5-7 sounds pretty good to me, sounds better than below 5

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    You don't. It's an opinion. If you're having trouble with getting a date, lower your standards.

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    • requestdatastream

      Also, be sure to tell your date that you lowered your standards.

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  • nikkiclaire

    Honestly, If you have to ask if you are good looking you aren't. Good looking people are constantly hit on and flirted with. People stare at you with hatred out of jealousy. There are constant glances in your direction. You get treated differently, special favors, free coffee just cause, comped desserts, job offers from random people who don't know you can do the job etc, etc, etc.

    There is good news tho. When someone is in love with you, your looks don't matter to them, so don't worry about it. In fact, they think you are beautiful because they love the inner you. It's amazing.

    Stop worrying about looks.

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    • Checkmate_King

      That is exactly perfect and absolutely correct. Great advice. You have much insight into the human experience nikkiclaire.

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    • Alichael

      Your second paragraph is very true. You fall in love and they will fall in love with the inner you.

      Your first paragraph, I don't know if it's true that everyone will offer you jobs, do more favors for you, etc. just based on your looks, but some will, and they're not worth it. Just stick with the thinking of your second paragraph, and find someone special who loves you for you.

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  • nannysue123

    your perfect the way you are xx

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    • If she didn't get it the 3rd time, she probably never will.

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  • nannysue123

    your perfect the way you are xx

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  • nannysue123

    your perfect the way you are xx

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  • nannysue123

    your perfect the way you are xx

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