I know, my parents pushed me too hard and I was a snowflake too. Thats why I'm wondering how i can do it. They kicked me out of the house at a young age and I lived poor and always felt sorry for myself. One day i got my shit together and found a good job and I realized it was the victim mindset that kept me down. Not the rich ppl. Its actually not that hard to find a good job and be successful. Im ranting. Basically I want him to be responsible for his fuck ups and not blame ppl and not be a sensitive little bitch
Which one? Mine? Because it was a scape goat and friends would reassure me that im a victim. I could blame the world instead of myself. In reality I was a drug addict that dropped out of school and hung out with similar people all day.
Well, regardless of from where that so called mindset came, you must not push too hard, because that's a great way bring about resentments on both sides. I honestly think you shouldn't project your issues on your child. I think things like acceptance, and moderation are key.
Thats what Ive come to realize too. If you push them too hard it will have the opposite effect. I really feel like that mindset is cancer though. I experienced it first hand.
How do I keep my son from becoming a snowflake?
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I know, my parents pushed me too hard and I was a snowflake too. Thats why I'm wondering how i can do it. They kicked me out of the house at a young age and I lived poor and always felt sorry for myself. One day i got my shit together and found a good job and I realized it was the victim mindset that kept me down. Not the rich ppl. Its actually not that hard to find a good job and be successful. Im ranting. Basically I want him to be responsible for his fuck ups and not blame ppl and not be a sensitive little bitch
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From where do you suppose that victim mindset came?
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Which one? Mine? Because it was a scape goat and friends would reassure me that im a victim. I could blame the world instead of myself. In reality I was a drug addict that dropped out of school and hung out with similar people all day.
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Well, regardless of from where that so called mindset came, you must not push too hard, because that's a great way bring about resentments on both sides. I honestly think you shouldn't project your issues on your child. I think things like acceptance, and moderation are key.
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Thats what Ive come to realize too. If you push them too hard it will have the opposite effect. I really feel like that mindset is cancer though. I experienced it first hand.
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I would say to make a point to always support, and encourage him. Try to model the behavior you want him to emulate.