What's going to happen is, he's going to keep getting mad to make you listen to him; that's his way of training you to do what he wants. Every time you apologize or give in to his rants (even though you're just pretending, it's still considered being compliant), you're only letting him know that his constant nagging and bullying is working.
Either stand by your statements 100% (no pretending) and hang up on his ass or walk away when he gets too out of hand. Or end the friendship.
The scary thing is, eventually, he's going to try to pressure you for a relationship. Or he probably already thinks you two are dating since he gets highly upset when you do things without him. Be careful, guys like him are crazy and more likely to get aggressive/violent.
I get wat your saying.
and we always argue about the same stuff, because he always feel some type of way about certain situations. Which i why we argue cuz he doesnt open his mind to the WHOLE situation at hand. He just sees a small part of the situation that upsets him. It annoys me so bad that sometimes I'll start throwing stuff. And then he'll be like why are you acting like that.
I'll say because you dont fucking get it. Then he'll say, your always blaming me, its always my fault. Blahx3
See he only paid attention to the part of I blamed it on him, but won't ask well wat dont I get or something like that. So he could actually understand.
Thats how bad it iratates me. Smh
And I do stand by way I say and I say the same thing EVERYTIME. After awhile if a person keeps saying the same thing you would THINK they would catch on after time. NOPE not this guy cuz clearly hes stuck on his view and doesnt take in wat I say. Uggh
Then it would be better to end the friendship, because no amount of patiently talking to him over the next 5 years or so is going to make him change. In the end, it's insane for you to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, it'll only break you.
how do I get through to this person?
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Your friend is fucked up, there's no fixing him.
What's going to happen is, he's going to keep getting mad to make you listen to him; that's his way of training you to do what he wants. Every time you apologize or give in to his rants (even though you're just pretending, it's still considered being compliant), you're only letting him know that his constant nagging and bullying is working.
Either stand by your statements 100% (no pretending) and hang up on his ass or walk away when he gets too out of hand. Or end the friendship.
The scary thing is, eventually, he's going to try to pressure you for a relationship. Or he probably already thinks you two are dating since he gets highly upset when you do things without him. Be careful, guys like him are crazy and more likely to get aggressive/violent.
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I get wat your saying.
and we always argue about the same stuff, because he always feel some type of way about certain situations. Which i why we argue cuz he doesnt open his mind to the WHOLE situation at hand. He just sees a small part of the situation that upsets him. It annoys me so bad that sometimes I'll start throwing stuff. And then he'll be like why are you acting like that.
I'll say because you dont fucking get it. Then he'll say, your always blaming me, its always my fault. Blahx3
See he only paid attention to the part of I blamed it on him, but won't ask well wat dont I get or something like that. So he could actually understand.
Thats how bad it iratates me. Smh
And I do stand by way I say and I say the same thing EVERYTIME. After awhile if a person keeps saying the same thing you would THINK they would catch on after time. NOPE not this guy cuz clearly hes stuck on his view and doesnt take in wat I say. Uggh
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Then it would be better to end the friendship, because no amount of patiently talking to him over the next 5 years or so is going to make him change. In the end, it's insane for you to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, it'll only break you.