How do i get over this guy?

I can barely sleep and eat, and cant' stop talking about him. He's my manager. He already knows my feelings. We could never date. I am nervous and emotional in the office and can't quit. I need ways to get over him. I tried thinking of the bad things about him, going on the internet and finding other guys and distracting myself.

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  • Feel you. The only ex I got over easily was Bc I wanted the relationship to be over. I’m a fucking Klingon.

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    • I'm the same way, can't get over a guy for shit.

      I think in these situations it becomes less about trying to get over someone or put them out of our minds, and more about figuring out how to move on with our lives despite and alongside still having the feelings.

      In other words OP, don't try to take it off the stove entirely, just put it on the back burner. Get some other things cooking. Not other romantic prospects, but personal projects, things to achieve, if you want out of your job maybe focus on whatever would allow you to get a different/better one.

      Sometimes when it starts to boil over, just take the lid off for a minute and wait for the bubbles to go back down.

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    • I see him everyday for an 1 hour all summer from May to August. So probably not.
      And I worked from August to October last year and just came back, and my feelings came back the second I saw him after 6 months.

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  • Only thing to heal it is time. In 2 months you wont even think about em

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    • I agree it takes time and that's inevitable to many. I think it's different amounts of time for different people.

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  • Find a different job - and then you are fee to act on your feelings... He may be the match you are looking for in life.

    Note: How large is the company? Most companies of any size allow dating and even marriage between employees - IF they are in different departments.

    You may just need to transfer to another department where he is not your manager (and if that's the case I'm sure that he will recommend you to other departments).

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    • I don't have the option of quitting my job. It took me 1 year and a half to find it.
      He doesn't like me back.
      Managers and Reps are not allowed to date in the company. Final!

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