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A coworker decided they in love with me. I am starting to be rude and cruel to them to get the point across. Also I low-key have a FWB so is not like I would be down to fuck them anyways. I just not sure how to bring up my FWB since they suggested "Oh just quit that what I'd do!"
Write him a terse not explaining in no uncertain terms that you're not interested. Keep a copy of the note in case you have to report him to HR.
Go to HR. Your coworker is harassing you and that's not okay. Also be careful about how "cruel" you are to him because if you're taking it too far then he could report YOU to HR
Well, I not sure what else to do because now they gossiping about me and starting rumors. So I think at this point my credibility might b thrown out the window.
In the USA an employer who allows other people to harrass and spread roomers about another person (especially after you turn them down as a date) is likely out a minimum of several hundred thousand dollars if the owner or HR does not take care of the situation pronto. The courts are clearly spoken about this.
You need to go to HR or your manager/owner if a small company and tell them about the issues, and that you expect it to be dealt with in a timely manner, or you will contact a lawyer to file a lawsuit. Anyone with brains in HR, management, or above will knows how that lawsuit will almost certainly end.
The reason so many people get away with harassment is because the victims are not willing to stand up and fight it. Fight it and get HR or the company management or owner involved.
If they terminate you it will only cost them a lot more money - unless you totally made up the story.
Update: Said person got fired after started fights with, racially insults to coworkers and sexual harrasement towards males and females in the company. What apperently got them fired despite management knowing of the harrasement was ditching work for four days straight.
Cut your losses, punch the guy in the balls as hard as you can and then quit
I literally cant. I wont be able to pay rent. I have more than one job and niether will give me full time. I been trying find a fulltime but no one hires fulltime after the pandemic.
You are being a jerk, you should not be cruel to someone just cause you don't want to fuck them. Just say "I'm not attracted to you" like a normal fucking person.