How do i approach this cute guy?

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So there’s this really cute barista at the one coffee shop I go to. I find myself wanting to go there just because I might catch a glimpse of him. I know, teenagerish of me. But he is adorb. My type.

He seems straight buttt this is a craft coffee shop that leans kinda progressive and is lgbtq friendly, so who knows. Also, in terms of sexuality, appearances can be deceiving. He’s definitely smiley when he takes my order, but we don’t say much. I asked him what his favorite drink was once and ordered something similar next time.

But I’m really stuck and down on myself with guys lately. I don’t know what to do anymore or what to say. I’m overwhelmed and nervous by how beautiful he is. I’m also feel defeated in life and approaching guys who turn out to be straight.

Please don’t lecture me on if it’s right or wrong to approach him. I’m gay. I have to do what I need to do. Online dating and hookup apps are trash and nothing happens. I’m desperate, fed up, but try to remain hopeful. So please, leave your sexual insecurities at the door. It’s not like I’m living in some backwoods town or Saudi Arabia. This is a craft coffee shop in a major metro area. There is nothing wrong with what I’m trying to do; just looking for encouragement or ideas. Thanks.

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  • playklax
    1 year ago

    It's normal to be nervous. I'd feel the same way! And you don't have to justify yourself really, we can all relate. No one has commented yet, but if anyone else does, they're probably going to say the same thing. Ask him out! You live a progressive area like myself, people aren't as uptight as more conservative areas, so you're in a good place. But prepare yourself for rejection, as it's a possibility. Nothing ventured, nothing gained though. It can be awkward if he says no, or turns out to be straight, so also consider that you'll see him still if you continue to go to this coffee shop...that's the part that I would struggle with...
    But if he's hot like you say, he's probably been though this before, I'm sure he'll handle it with tact. It really comes down to your ability to handle rejection, because that is the only negative that could happen. You'll need to figure out for yourself if you're able to do that.

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  • jodi1955
    1 year ago

    strike up a conversation with him, small talk and ask when he gets off work, and then suggest maybe you can share a coffee or soda. dont know if you dont ask

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    • donkeykong716
      1 year ago

      yeah that can work! I think just asking him out in some form will work better than me straight up asking if he's gay or straight. But yeah, he's got some tattoos I can ask about, I just need to work up the courage.

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  • Orphan
    1 year ago

    Well if u go there often just make it obvious that u want to make a conversation with him. See how the conversation goes.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Have a conversation with him, and if ya'll seem to be compatible. Ask him out, and if he turns you down don't take it personally.

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  • DarkMatter
    1 year ago

    Why did you use Saudi Arabia as an example? I have been there. The country is actually more progressive than what the foreigners know.

    Oh and I don't know how to help. Sorry. But your story is cute.

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    • donkeykong716
      1 year ago

      Hi,

      I have not been there, no. But I believe it was on a list of countries that is not friendly to lgbtq individuals. So if you have, that’s great. But I’m still gonna be fairly cautious when I’m traveling to countries on that list. (Which came from a lonely-planet type site)

      Not sure why it offends you or you’re taking this personally, but my story is not “cute” either.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Girls dont have to do anything to get a guy. They could literally walk up to any guy crosseyed and just stare at the guy and fart and he'd ask for her number.

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