I find myself of getting stuck in a cycle where I match with someone, we chat and flirt a bit to get to know each other, but eventually enough time passes that we kind of ghost each other. I'd like it a lot better if we'd save the small talk and chance to get to know each other a bit on a first date, although for safety reasons I can understand why most women want to get a feel for who she's dealing with before arranging to meet in person
Not to bring up a success story or anything but the start of a relationship is always about trust. You got to trust your potential partner that they wont stab you in your sleep and they have to trust that you wont murder them and bury them in a ditch. The rest kinda just builds up from there.
Trust is really important. That's why I submitted a question a while ago asking when I should "come out" about having OCD. So many people assume that it's excessive orderliness or cleanliness, so bringing it up without proper context makes me look like I'm trying to make drama where there is none. The reality is that OCD, or at least the way it exhibits for me, is more akin to schizophrenia in that I can become solidly convinced of things that simply aren't true. Having THAT happen without previously having prepared my partner for what to expect is even worse
How did socially anxious/awkward people date before dating apps?
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Depends how you used it. Found my SO on it.
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I find myself of getting stuck in a cycle where I match with someone, we chat and flirt a bit to get to know each other, but eventually enough time passes that we kind of ghost each other. I'd like it a lot better if we'd save the small talk and chance to get to know each other a bit on a first date, although for safety reasons I can understand why most women want to get a feel for who she's dealing with before arranging to meet in person
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Not to bring up a success story or anything but the start of a relationship is always about trust. You got to trust your potential partner that they wont stab you in your sleep and they have to trust that you wont murder them and bury them in a ditch. The rest kinda just builds up from there.
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Trust is really important. That's why I submitted a question a while ago asking when I should "come out" about having OCD. So many people assume that it's excessive orderliness or cleanliness, so bringing it up without proper context makes me look like I'm trying to make drama where there is none. The reality is that OCD, or at least the way it exhibits for me, is more akin to schizophrenia in that I can become solidly convinced of things that simply aren't true. Having THAT happen without previously having prepared my partner for what to expect is even worse
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I mean in my case I just repressed hard my weirdness for like a week while explaining some of my flaws, we all have them.