How could an entire family be so hateful

Cut ties and look after the people who look after you

I say cut all ties. With that kind of treatment, I say bullshit. You don't need to worry about all that. Just take care of your baby & husband. They're the ones who need you <3

I am so sorry to hear that. Wow, that really sucks. I KINDA know how you feel. My family seems to favour my brother and his family soooo much more than mine - and we are the more successful ones! It's so frustrating, but what can you do? My parents don't like my past, and they don't care for my hubby (from our PAST), and they don't even want us to have a baby. Yet my brother and his gf have a baby, and they are not as financially secure as us, and they just LOVE them!! It's so frustrating. Like WTF?!?! They judge people on their past WAY too much.

I can relate to you more than you can imagine. My father and his wife live in the UK, but, each year they come back to New Zealand for 3 months. They dont even tell us they have come back to NZ, and suddenly turn up on the doorstep, expecting meals and somewhere to sleep. They have repeatedly done this, as well as having no respect for my husband or me. After they have eaten, it is too much hard work to put their plates in the dishwasher. I have tried talking to Dad about it, but he refuses to change, and has even told me that it is me that has the problem. So, I soon fixed that. I sent him and e-mail telling him they were no longer welcome. Drastic? yes. Do I feel better? Definately. If your family can let you go through all the heartache of having an ill child without offering any support, then they are family in name only. Heres hoping your in-laws prove to be a much more valuable part of your family. Dont let them get you down or upset. It just aint worth it!!!

So your family didn't go all nutty for your brat? What a stupid fucking breeder! I hope it gets hit by a train.

I am so sorry for your pain. I hope your little girl is thriving. My nephew was born 3 months early and they let me in to visit. I can only imagine how hard it has been and will continue to be for the first few years.

Forgive them, it isn't worth your energy.

My family spread lies too, saying I'm a devil worhipper (I'm atheist) and that I do drugs (bs). I cut all ties when I found out I was preggo cause I decided my baby didn't need ppl like that in his life- or the drama. And I feel great, I don't regret it at all.

I feel for you. They should see the baby. I just wouldn't start any communication any more. If they call you, fine. Just don't go out of your way anymore. All that added drama isn't good for you or the baby. Your baby can feel what you are feeling.

Wow they sound like diiiicccckkkks

Parents and such can be real disappointing and downright abusive. I wouldn't suggest cutting them out of your life entirely, but you do need to protect yourself.

That way you at least give yourself time to accept them for what they are: nasty, jealous people who treat you quite badly.

When you accept that (I doubt anyone can entirely, but at least mostly) you may know what kind of boundaries to set. You know: no visits, phone calls & cards only, redirect if conversations get nasty, confront & end conversation if they become insulting etc. etc.

While containing them, don't forget to develop real supports - friendships, the in-laws = wherever. You do need love and respect and support in your life and if you aren't going to get it from the parents do what lots of other people do: get it elsewhere.

If you have your own power base, it will amaze you how small and insignificant those hateful family members are in reality. All you need is love.

well, just so that you know, you aren't alone.

if your family isn't going to be there for you, and for such a serious thing that you went through, what is the point of keeping a relationship with them?

are your inlaws better? maybe you should plan your holidays with them.