Yeah, I agree, but I think we all know people who've stayed in an abusive relationship longer than they should and always thought the other person would change even though they know full well that they won't. Also people who move from one relationship like this to another, or people who do settle down with a nice person and then find something missing or boring. I don't think anyone (apart from masochists) consciously seeks someone to hurt them, but there does often seem to be an unconscious pattern where some people seek out what they are familiar with or - like you said - get what they think they deserve.
How can we love someone that abuses us?
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Yeah, I agree, but I think we all know people who've stayed in an abusive relationship longer than they should and always thought the other person would change even though they know full well that they won't. Also people who move from one relationship like this to another, or people who do settle down with a nice person and then find something missing or boring. I don't think anyone (apart from masochists) consciously seeks someone to hurt them, but there does often seem to be an unconscious pattern where some people seek out what they are familiar with or - like you said - get what they think they deserve.
People can be so complex.