How can i tell my dad?

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Five months ago, I started talking with a boy from my school. He was really nice and we got along. After hanging out for about a week, I asked my dad if he could come over to our house. He let him, but afterwards said he didn't want him coming over again. I asked him why and he just told me that he didn't like him. I got mad and argued with him, but it didn't change anything.

Even though my dad didn't want me to, I kept hanging out with him. We went on a few dates and things were good. One day I told my dad that I was going to go to the movies with one of my other friends. We went and saw it, and things were going fine, but on the pulled over and started getting forceful.

I had never thought something like that would ever happen to me. I knew that it could, but it always seemed distant, so I didn't worry. He beat me and used me till he was done. He threatened to kill me if I told anyone. I'm scared at school all the time now, and I don't think anyone would even believe me if I told them. My dad was right, and I don't know how to tell him I was raped.

I feel like everyone I look at now can tell, like I'm tainted. I want to die, I feel disgusting.People can tell something's wrong. Especially my dad, but I just don't want them to know. I just want to curl up forever. I feel so filthy. I don't know what to do.

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Comments ( 22 )
  • SpookyPancake

    Tell your dad and the police. Being raped is not your fault.

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  • Handyman

    Tell him, and the police, you need to get this known by other people. You have made a mistake, not a crime like he did.

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  • Mondemolokisan30972

    Please talk to a therapist an counsellor, it's not easy but it's good to put it out there.

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  • Tell your dad like the other posters have said.

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  • nikkiclaire

    Talk to your dad sweety. He will work it out with you. Don't bottle it up cause you did nothing wrong. That's what dads are for. He will know exactly what needs to be done.

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  • ChrissySnow

    I didn't tell my Dad when I was raped, and I won't, and I'm glad. I'm sorry but I don't want my parents in any part of my sex life. I learned to deal with it in my own ways and confided with the people that I chose. I don't want my father having anything more to hold over my head on why he is smart and I'm not

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  • Youngpussy1234

    Talk ur dad tell uv been raped soon as posible talk dad to tell police

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  • Poisonous-Cupcakes

    Boys are like this...disgusting and dangerous

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  • bubblemallow

    PLEASE READ THIS
    Does your school have a guidance counsellor? It would be a good idea to go to them, and soon. They would help you handle telling your dad and getting through the aftermath of being raped. You should also go to a doctor to check for pregnancy, STDs etc.. But remember: rape is NOT yours fault and your father won't blame YOU.

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  • You NEED to remember this: "It is NOT your fault".
    Go up to your dad, tell him he was right, then explain. If he's a decent father, he won't be mad at you. And then tell the cops! Get that bastard arrested so that it doesn't happen to anyone else.
    And most importantly, STAY STRONG. Know that you will get through this.

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  • jtbmetal123

    Tell your dad the truth and call the cops

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  • randomperson1000000

    There's nothing I hate more than overprotective parents, so on that note I'm not sure if I'd necessarily talk to your dad. However, you certainly shouldn't repress it, so I'd highly encourage you to confide in other trusted individuals.

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  • Put him in prison before he rapes again, and he will, they always do. You and any other possible victims are responsible for stopping him.

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  • Azule7

    The best thing to do in this situation is to tell your dad. It's not your fault, you are your father's daughter more than anything he cares for your well-being the most. You should try to go to counselor. I know things might seem intimidating but you'll have support from everyone!!!!

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  • Ellenna

    You don't mention your mother at all: maybe she would be a better person to confide in? In any case, please don't keep this to yourself: find a sexual assault line or women's centre and get some support ASAP.

    And please, please remember YOU are not dirty or tainted, but the rapist certainly is.

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  • Z01

    You would've said something if you could, but you're afraid of what might happen. If there is still a way for him to hurt you, then be careful when sharing this predicament with someone. It must be hard for you. I suggest you write everything down on a few pieces of paper or in a book. Give them to however you feel the most comfortable with and you trust (probably your dad).

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  • Hellnaw

    Who did this to you has to receive punishment. You can tell the police at ANY time even many years after it happened. A crime is a crime. And DO tell your dad. He's your dad and is there to help and protect you, he'll understand. Don't let this go. Never let these types of jerks get away with it!

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    • Pseodonihm

      Yes you can tell the police at any time. But after the statute of limitations have elapsed there is very little they can do about your specific case. In the New England states the statues are:

      https://www.cga.ct.gov/2002/rpt/2002-R-0258.htm

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  • normal-1

    Sometimes fathers do know best. You can tell him and he might kill the guy. It would do no good to tell the police now.
    You could go on Facebook post his picture and tell the story under a diff. name. To warn other girls. Some others that know him might tell the same store. He would be destroyed if that happened.

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    • Pseodonihm

      Incorrect. Tell the police. Most of these crimial "people" are idiots. If your account is accurate there will be evidence. Semen and blood in his car, ect. Going on Facebook was once a good plan but in recent years the law has changed. Now they can petition to have things removed and prosecute the poster for slander

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      • normal-1

        Finding DNA does not prove it was rape. It is her word against his that it wasn't consensual sex.
        If she is lucky she can find others to tell the same thing happened to them. Then the cop's.

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        • Pseodonihm

          I didn't get to finish what I wanted to say. I had to go. But, if she still has bruises photograph them, she might still have vaginal tearing, which can be documented, blood in the car goes a long way to prove rape. And if she still has the clothes they might come in handy as further proof of her presence in the car. And if there unwashed even better.

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