How can i stop jealousy from making me down about things?

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I don't know why, but I've always been a little jealous of the people around me. My friends, or my family, if they're doing better than I am I'm always irked a bit. I'm still happy for them, but I also can't help but bitterly think "Why not me?" or "why not me too?".

Lately every one of my closest friends has gone abroad, my absolute dream. I want to travel everywhere, and they're all getting to. It's driving me nuts. I really am happy for them, I'm just not happy for myself.

Money is another thing I've been jealous of people over since I was a kid. As petty as that sounds. My family never had much, and it always slightly embarrassed me when I'd have a friend over who's parents made a ton. Or if they had a way better house than mine etc.

This is ridiculous I know. Why can't I be happy for them, and for myself in the things I have in my life? Thanks to the jealousy, it's starting to bring me down and make me feel pretty crappy about my own life. How can I get over this?

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  • OnlyTheTruth
    12 years ago

    When you think that the life on the other side of the pasture is greener and better, make sure you check if the only difference is that the other side has more Bullsh*t on it first... everyone has feelings like this too (which is normal) ..

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    OMG Its hard, I understand it. I always have this problem - just try to control it and be positive and happy for other people's achievements. It will take practice and time, just remember that it is a very HUMAN EMOTION to feel jelouse and its okay. Just as human as saddness, happiness etc... you recognize it and thats a good first step.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    its natural you feel this way momentarily its how you deal with it that is the kicker. Ldizzy said stop watching and start doing and i agree. i also agree with Cobrakitnu laughter makes everyone feel better and eases tensions

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Instead of thinking, "Why not me?", you should start saying to yourself, "I can get that too!".

    Be more confident about what you want that everyone else seems to be getting. And why do you think they're getting what you want? Sure, some people are just plain lucky, but most of the time people work for what they want, and you can too. So stop watching them receive things that you can also get if you get out there and go after it.

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago

    I could have typed this myself. I'm in the same boat as you are. Honestly, what I do is just ignore it. Yeah, it's not that easy. But practice makes perfect.

    I still get those moments of jealousy, but I just ignore them and I instantly forget about it. Or sometimes I make jokes. That seems to help, just laughing.

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