How can i stop having a crush on someone i don't want to have a crush on?

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I have a crush on someone that I do NOT want to have a crush on. Very inconvenient and very annoying. How can I force myself to not have a crush on her? Or will I just have to let the crush go away on it's own?

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  • wigz
    6 years ago | pl

    You gotta either find someone else or somehow see your crush negatively. Focus on her flaws instead of your idealized version of her in your head.

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    • gxdezlh
      6 years ago | pl

      Well I do have a boyfriend, and I am romantically interested in a friend of mine.

      I know my crush isn't perfect.

      I would not say I idealize her honestly

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      • wigz
        6 years ago | pl

        'The grass is greener where you water it'

        Something is causing your heart/mind to wander. Maybe you're bored or unhappy with your boyfriend. In that case you need to decide if you want to reinvigorate your relationship with him or end it.

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        • gxdezlh
          6 years ago | pl

          That's not how it works for me. I am polyamorous.

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          • wigz
            6 years ago | pl

            Doesn't matter. You can still focus your attention where you need to. You can still try to stop thoughts you don't want to have instead of feeding them. Stop making excuses.

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  • dirtybirdy
    6 years ago | pl

    Sorry, love. The heart wants what the heart wants.

    And it usually wants a birdy.

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  • DjHolster
    6 years ago | pl

    Find a different person to love. Hell, it's hard but worth it.
    try a dating app or go to a meet and greet in your community.

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  • SmokeEverything
    6 years ago | pl

    Just try group sex platonically and your problem will go away, or at least stop being a problem

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  • sonu95
    6 years ago | pl

    Picturize her in some disgusting situation and your crush will go away.

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  • AndrogynousBoy
    6 years ago | pl

    Introduce your BF to swinging lifestyle. Obviously you can't hold your legs together when away from your bf.

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    • gxdezlh
      6 years ago | pl

      I have 2 crushes and I don't want to have sex with either of them. As for my boyfriend, I don't want to have sex with him unless we get married (and I would want to wait after marriage). I am not a sexually promiscuous person.

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      • AndrogynousBoy
        6 years ago | pl

        Unless you are religious hence abstinence till marriage then it's a dead giveaway you see relationships in not "full light".
        Sexual compatibility is important part of relationship and not committing to this part of relationship till marriage begins increases the odds of marriage failure as in you start to have sex, he or you are not pleased with it but once having had tasted it you will want more from different partner in secrecy.
        Maybe I'm wrong but sex is something that people do because they love each other in the first place and not because they are just married...

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      • SmokeEverything
        6 years ago | pl

        Waiting for marriage to have sex is pointless

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