I'm in the same boat as you...having good days and bad days with it...though I read somewhere every second you waste thinking about them is a second wasted on your on happiness. Every time I find myself fantasizing about him I just stop and "wake up" and look at my surroundings to distract myself and focus on my life without him. (It hurts when you see someone you love with someone else, but I'd rather have him as a friend then nothing at all)
I know, but I don't think it's wrong to think about him as long as you don't have expectations that you know you can't have, but,, thinking about it or being nice to him I don't htink it's wrong.
Na that's not wrong to think about him :) but like you said it's just trying to control those thoughts really...I became so wrapped up in thinking about him that I forgot he was with someone...then I saw a Christmas card with his and her name on it, it broke my heart again...I'd been living in my head too much so trying some distraction techniques now :)
aww I know, I also saw a picture of them on Christmas celebrating and I felt so bad. If you found something to distract you pls tell me, I dn't want to be suffering for something not worth it.
At the moment I've been looking at boys trying to make eye contact with a good looking guy (hopefully single). Sort of worked yesterday and I got a smile back, but my mum was with me so quickly looked away HA! Still wanna be with him...but figured if I could at least find someone who I could be with in the flesh and get a nice smile off of it would help steer me in the right direction
Yes, that's a nice start. Usually when a guy smiles I'm very shy and sometimes I even try not to SEE that person again, that's rude, but it¿s because I don't know how to 'flirt', really, I don't. I will take that for me too and I will start doing that kind of things. Best wishes.
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I'm in the same boat as you...having good days and bad days with it...though I read somewhere every second you waste thinking about them is a second wasted on your on happiness. Every time I find myself fantasizing about him I just stop and "wake up" and look at my surroundings to distract myself and focus on my life without him. (It hurts when you see someone you love with someone else, but I'd rather have him as a friend then nothing at all)
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I know, but I don't think it's wrong to think about him as long as you don't have expectations that you know you can't have, but,, thinking about it or being nice to him I don't htink it's wrong.
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Na that's not wrong to think about him :) but like you said it's just trying to control those thoughts really...I became so wrapped up in thinking about him that I forgot he was with someone...then I saw a Christmas card with his and her name on it, it broke my heart again...I'd been living in my head too much so trying some distraction techniques now :)
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aww I know, I also saw a picture of them on Christmas celebrating and I felt so bad. If you found something to distract you pls tell me, I dn't want to be suffering for something not worth it.
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At the moment I've been looking at boys trying to make eye contact with a good looking guy (hopefully single). Sort of worked yesterday and I got a smile back, but my mum was with me so quickly looked away HA! Still wanna be with him...but figured if I could at least find someone who I could be with in the flesh and get a nice smile off of it would help steer me in the right direction
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Yes, that's a nice start. Usually when a guy smiles I'm very shy and sometimes I even try not to SEE that person again, that's rude, but it¿s because I don't know how to 'flirt', really, I don't. I will take that for me too and I will start doing that kind of things. Best wishes.