I've got a cousin with whom there's a lot of chemistry. We both know it, and know that the other knows it, but we never really talk about it. Not verbally, at least. It's one of those things where we're both obviously feeling it and we just let it go because... that's life. We basically communicate all this with body language and micro-expressions.
It's amazing how much can be said without saying anything.
So your cousin isn't adopted or anything? If you two share the same family tree I find that utterly repulsive. Good luck when you start popping out retarted babies.
many cousin marriages lead to healthy babies and it's a lot more common in the world than you realize. In terms of reproduction the incidence of defects is based on how close they are in the family tree. So a brother and sister would have a higher likelihood of genetic defects than cousins.
don't get me wrong, I'm not a big advocate of relations between family members but I can understand why it occurs.
people hook up because of their intense attraction for one another and their shared history. They don't go looking for it, it just happens and they're not in it for pumping out 17 children (though some crazy cults do such things).
They do it because they happened to fall in love with someone who is related. Try to be more understanding and less judgmental-it could happen to you too.
Can you read? I wonder who was popped out retarded. This is about having a slight crush that is never acted upon or spoken of, not fucking like rabbits and having children left right and center. Furthermore, two women are incapable of having children together. I know it wasn't mentioned, but it further invalidates this ridiculous response.
Also you seriously need to brush up on your research regarding genetic abnormalities that results from first cousins having children.
But I would brush up on my reading first, if I were you.
It was a bit harsh, and again - it's just a slight feeling of a bit of a crush. And that's all, just a feeling. I think you'd be surprised at how many people get little crushes like this on extended family. Also the rate of birth defects from interbred first cousins is surprisingly low. (But I still think, like you, that actual sex / reproduction would be icky)
Thank you for apologizing, though. I just felt upset that I was being called repulsive, and that it was insinuated that I was sleeping with my (female) cousin, so my "comeback" wasn't very nice either. Sorry about that.
The modern Western soicety is unusual in that it frowns upon sexual relationships between cousins. Many societies accept it as normal and in others it is even the norm.
In our situation we have plenty to lose. It's just not considered acceptable in the society we live in, and our family is very important to the both of us. Long ago we accepted this was the case.
A lot of things are not considered acceptable by society, doesn't mean that you should kill your own happiness to appease an anonymous society bent on judging and punishing people.
As I was saying if you two can keep it a secret, no one will have to know and therefore there won't be any consequences.
Plus you won't have to worry about pregnancy either-which is a serious concern with male/female unions.
You're not hurting anyone but loving someone who loves you. Society is still barbaric-so until people become more civilized and open-minded just have your fun but keep it only between yourselves.
I've had a lot of crushes on a lot of people. Some are worth pursuing, others aren't. It just isn't a good idea, and there are plenty more proverbial fish in the sea.
HONESTLY, Are you/have you been attracted to a member of your family?
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I've got a cousin with whom there's a lot of chemistry. We both know it, and know that the other knows it, but we never really talk about it. Not verbally, at least. It's one of those things where we're both obviously feeling it and we just let it go because... that's life. We basically communicate all this with body language and micro-expressions.
It's amazing how much can be said without saying anything.
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So your cousin isn't adopted or anything? If you two share the same family tree I find that utterly repulsive. Good luck when you start popping out retarted babies.
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many cousin marriages lead to healthy babies and it's a lot more common in the world than you realize. In terms of reproduction the incidence of defects is based on how close they are in the family tree. So a brother and sister would have a higher likelihood of genetic defects than cousins.
don't get me wrong, I'm not a big advocate of relations between family members but I can understand why it occurs.
people hook up because of their intense attraction for one another and their shared history. They don't go looking for it, it just happens and they're not in it for pumping out 17 children (though some crazy cults do such things).
They do it because they happened to fall in love with someone who is related. Try to be more understanding and less judgmental-it could happen to you too.
Can you read? I wonder who was popped out retarded. This is about having a slight crush that is never acted upon or spoken of, not fucking like rabbits and having children left right and center. Furthermore, two women are incapable of having children together. I know it wasn't mentioned, but it further invalidates this ridiculous response.
Also you seriously need to brush up on your research regarding genetic abnormalities that results from first cousins having children.
But I would brush up on my reading first, if I were you.
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I'm sorry that comment was kind of uncalled for, and if it offended you I am truely sorry.
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It was a bit harsh, and again - it's just a slight feeling of a bit of a crush. And that's all, just a feeling. I think you'd be surprised at how many people get little crushes like this on extended family. Also the rate of birth defects from interbred first cousins is surprisingly low. (But I still think, like you, that actual sex / reproduction would be icky)
Thank you for apologizing, though. I just felt upset that I was being called repulsive, and that it was insinuated that I was sleeping with my (female) cousin, so my "comeback" wasn't very nice either. Sorry about that.
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It's quite legal in the UK to marry your cousin - no problem at all.
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It's legal, but often frowned upon.
that's not incest. it's legal in plenty of states and in many countries
why not pursue it, you got nothing to lose as long as you keep it between you and him.
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In our situation we have plenty to lose. It's just not considered acceptable in the society we live in, and our family is very important to the both of us. Long ago we accepted this was the case.
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A lot of things are not considered acceptable by society, doesn't mean that you should kill your own happiness to appease an anonymous society bent on judging and punishing people.
As I was saying if you two can keep it a secret, no one will have to know and therefore there won't be any consequences.
Plus you won't have to worry about pregnancy either-which is a serious concern with male/female unions.
You're not hurting anyone but loving someone who loves you. Society is still barbaric-so until people become more civilized and open-minded just have your fun but keep it only between yourselves.
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What it really comes down to is...
I've had a lot of crushes on a lot of people. Some are worth pursuing, others aren't. It just isn't a good idea, and there are plenty more proverbial fish in the sea.
Risk vs. Reward, and all that.
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I was about to say 'to each his/her own', but I can honestly relate to your situation.
In my case it's similar with the risk/reward ratio. This is why I've been reluctant.
As much as I'd love to be with her and she wants to be with me-we really can't at this time.