I have been in a relationship for about 2 years and married for a few months. He's better with dates than I am. I don't know if I'm proud to be in a relationship (I'm more proud of my car, apartment, academic capacity etc.), but I'm happy in my relationship.
Before marriage my typical relationship would last anywhere from 4 months to a year.
My advice pulls from observation of failed and successful relationships as well as analysis of my own failed and successful relationships. I have had a great deal many relationships so I have had many good opportunities to do this analysis.
Because I am NeuroNeptunian, and NeuroNeptunian is long-winded, I will end my jabbering with my "final word" as far as relationship advice goes: Communication. If you can't openly and honestly communicate with someone, then you can't be in a relationship with them, I don't care how much you love them. If you don't know how to communicate openly and honestly, then you aren't ready for a relationship. Pride is poisen when it comes to long term relationships.
I agree on the communication part, but "pride is poison"? Sorry, I don't agree with that. If you both respect and trust each other, you can both keep your pride.
If you're too proud to respect another person's point of view and accept that not everyone is going to agree with you, then you'll probably never have a decent relationship.
Respecting other people's views has got nothing to do with pride. Having a discussion is not about convincing people of your viewpoints, it's about getting an agreement.
Like you said, the key to a good relationship is communication. It's not being overly compliant just for the sake of avoiding arguments.
For example, I've seen your comments on a couple of posts, and I think you're an intelligent person. So even though I disagree with you on this one, that doesn't mean I don't respect you. You can stay proud.
Uhh... proud of what?
I'm not advocating compliance, but if someone is so proud of their viewpoint that they're completely unwilling to even admit that it could be flawed or be flexible for the sake of reaching an agreement, the relationship isn't gonna work =/
But either way. Just something that I have learned from my relationships. Someone that is too "proud" of their own viewpoints will not shut the fuck up, whether or not the other party agrees to disagree. And they never seem to understand why they're broken up with either, because they're awesome v.v
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I have been in a relationship for about 2 years and married for a few months. He's better with dates than I am. I don't know if I'm proud to be in a relationship (I'm more proud of my car, apartment, academic capacity etc.), but I'm happy in my relationship.
Before marriage my typical relationship would last anywhere from 4 months to a year.
My advice pulls from observation of failed and successful relationships as well as analysis of my own failed and successful relationships. I have had a great deal many relationships so I have had many good opportunities to do this analysis.
Because I am NeuroNeptunian, and NeuroNeptunian is long-winded, I will end my jabbering with my "final word" as far as relationship advice goes: Communication. If you can't openly and honestly communicate with someone, then you can't be in a relationship with them, I don't care how much you love them. If you don't know how to communicate openly and honestly, then you aren't ready for a relationship. Pride is poisen when it comes to long term relationships.
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I agree on the communication part, but "pride is poison"? Sorry, I don't agree with that. If you both respect and trust each other, you can both keep your pride.
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If you're too proud to respect another person's point of view and accept that not everyone is going to agree with you, then you'll probably never have a decent relationship.
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Respecting other people's views has got nothing to do with pride. Having a discussion is not about convincing people of your viewpoints, it's about getting an agreement.
Like you said, the key to a good relationship is communication. It's not being overly compliant just for the sake of avoiding arguments.
For example, I've seen your comments on a couple of posts, and I think you're an intelligent person. So even though I disagree with you on this one, that doesn't mean I don't respect you. You can stay proud.
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Uhh... proud of what?
I'm not advocating compliance, but if someone is so proud of their viewpoint that they're completely unwilling to even admit that it could be flawed or be flexible for the sake of reaching an agreement, the relationship isn't gonna work =/
But either way. Just something that I have learned from my relationships. Someone that is too "proud" of their own viewpoints will not shut the fuck up, whether or not the other party agrees to disagree. And they never seem to understand why they're broken up with either, because they're awesome v.v
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Well, if you look at pride in the sense of 'arrogance', you're definitely right.
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Arrogance may have been a better word to use, yes.