Hey guys, bunny here. i need advice

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So my breakup with my bf (yes rose the one you told me I never should date and who've I've been on and on about for ages) anyways that guy our breakup is around the corner. I'm about a month away from moving back home. Any advice for actually breaking the news to him? Also um I cant decide if I should tell him like 2 days prior or a week prior. Any advice or thoughts would be really appreaciated

Edited, ok so as you guys may remember months back he said sims very hurtful things wich have escalated escalated DC lead to him performing emotional qnd mental abuse. Due to being broke qnd cost of moving I've been unable to leave him well I finally have the funds to get out of here. I think that about sums it up

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litelander8

4 years ago

Leave early or get a hotel or air bnb. Don't risk physical abuse.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  That's not what I meant at all. I 100% cant afford that at all.
  
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  - litelander8
    
    4 years ago
    
    Then wait till the last minute, for sure.
    
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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

Hey Bunny,

1. Prepare first so you don’t linger afterward.
2. Have your support group of friends ready.
3. Do it honest. Make it clear it’s unreparably over.
4. Know what you’re gonna say.
5. Do it quickly and bluntly.
6. Then leave, cut communication and do not look back.
Good luck!

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- RoseIsabella
  
  4 years ago
  
  Exit strategy!
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yep! And don’t look back!
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      4 years ago
      
      Tell it, baby!
      
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Seriously this is amazing. I do love q good checklist! Seriousky thank you alot! Especislly fir not going with just disappear. No one deserves that
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    Glad you like it. I’d you were to just disappear he’d look for you. If you’re blunt and quick he’ll get it and leave you alone. (Hopefully)
    Good luck.
    
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Softlips123

4 years ago

I suggest you get ready to leave in secret, leave and never tell him because it could be unsafe with the abusiveness. Also, I’d suggest not telling him where you went after leaving.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thank you for the advice. At least I'll be free soon. Cant wait for that
  
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- Softlips123
  
  4 years ago
  
  P.S. I’m very sorry you’re going through this.
  
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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

Okay sugar, here's what you do: leave when he's gonna be gone for several hours, and tell him about it via text after you've done been gone, girl!

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

Why are you so broke? I hate to sound insensitive but why would you let yourself get into such a situation? If it’s as bad as you say why do you still use his funds and resources? If I were him I’d be pissed as hell.

I’ve noticed Westerners are so deathly afraid of being homeless. It’s like camping!!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I was broke, it was a complicated, I got 4500 in my savings and 800 in my checking. Once my savings is 5k I'm out. I dont owe him shit in fact hs owes me money tbh.
  
  Qnd because we are. Its complicated. I like camping I do but its complicated
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    4 years ago
    
    If you are living rent free and only have that much you need to work more. If that is USD or Euros even.
    
    I never understand when I hear people complain about their living situation when they can just work harder and leave. And you say he has been bad to you for months now.
    
    And if he pays your rent I mean...
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Why on earth are you assuming I'm living free? I pay more Bills then he does. Seriously what the fuck is your problem?
      
      Secondly I'm not complaining about shit. I'm simply asking for advice. A year ago I was negative and pay check to pay check. Today I'm up 5 grand so dont give me that shit. Working a full time job and having to keep a shitty man happy does not leave room for a second job. So working one job that's retail of all fucking things going from negative to 5 grand is pretty fuvking good so fuck off mate
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        Is this the dude, who wrecked the car by running into a roo?
        
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        4 years ago
        
        I dunno man you’re the one who has stuck around with someone who is so terrible and abusive for “ages”. It’s not “complicated” just leave.
        
        Not sure why you’re so content in sitting in “abuse” for months and months. I mean Jesus just leave and learn. Why even move in with someone like this, your even said people told you not to even date the guy.... so you move in together???
        
        If you’re American that country is literally the easiest place to live on the planet.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        I mentioned being flat broke you idiot. Besides if you were hear back then youd know I moved over 1000 miles. Not the cheapest move. Plus being bronze you dunbass. Nothings worth screwing myself over and being in a homeless shelter. Nothing.
        
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Cuntsiclestick

4 years ago

In this situation, he isn't owed a goodbye. Just leave when he's not around, change your number, block him on media, and dont look back.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  The worst part is the first thing that popped into my head is to defend him saying but hes been trying and hes ususlly so nice etc etc. God it cracks me up. I remember growing up thinking the thoughts I thought seeing people in these situations. It really is harder to leave than one would think.
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yeah, but once you do leave, you can find someone else. You're young, pretty, and have a good work ethic. You'll snatch up a better person in no time.
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Aww thank you! I cant wait to get out! I found the most perfect apartment. You should see my Amazon list for stuff to buy haha. Gonna be so amazing to finally have a place of my own. I forgot some of you know what I look like
      
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      - Cuntsiclestick
        
        4 years ago
        
        Youre welcome! Good luck with moving and decorating your new place!
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        4 years ago
        
        Thank you! I'm super excited to! I have so many ideas! Gonna be tight! Abd I'll finally have all the space I need for baking! And itll be clean cause there wont be others mess there. Omg I'm so frigging excited!
        
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jethro

4 years ago

Leave him a note and just move out.

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Iszzy123

4 years ago

Just leave don’t look back I think he’ll get the message

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[Old Memory]

4 years ago

No offense, but your post isn’t very easy to follow.

Are you leaving because you don’t like him? Is he abusive to you?

If you don’t want to be with him, move home sooner rather than later.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Ok ok I fixed it
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  New here? This is more to the regulars of iin who know everything that is going on.
  
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  - LloydAsher
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yeah we got some short attention spans here. Too many plotlines too much free time.
    
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      Ok ok I fixed it
      
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