Only sketchy information, but my most charitable interpretation is that he's a young guy who's bought into the whole strong, silent man mythology, who isn't very in-touch with his emotional side, and who is possibly insecure about sex, maybe because he doesn't know much about it - because, hey, it's all supposed to come naturally if you're one of those strong, silent men, right?
Alternatively, he could be a controlling dickhead who wants to control the information you have about him, who wants to control you during sex and who - since he knows you worry - deliberately uses uncertainty to push your buttons (which is obviously another aspect of control).
For what it's worth, it wasn't until I'd been through one marriage and was nearly 30 that I finally understood that guys didn't have to be like the emotionally repressed father I learned how to be a guy from. Maybe he's not a hopeless case and he just needs to learn and grow up, or maybe he's a controlling asshole with psychopathic tendencies. You have a far better idea than anyone here.
The top one sounds pretty accurate only he's 40, I'm the young one in this relastionship, I'm 20 with no experience in any of this and he has been in many relastionships including a semi abusive wife, at least there divorce was abusive she litterally attacked him. He could be insecure maybe, I know he worries that i think about other men or something since he's a chubbier guy and well his appearance had to grow on me I wasn't attracted to him right away, I've told him countless times that as my feelings grew for him so did my attraction for him, anyways he feels I'm out of his league being tall and skinny and what not. It's ludicrous if you ask me, that's true maybe he's trying to push my buttons. Either way he has he knows I'm a vindictive grudge holding bitch and this would be the first hopefully last time he opens that side of me. I'm stubborn as a dead mule haha. Na I think he just needs to mature and grow up and learn to be more open with me, if he can't I fear and believe we will not last. Honesty trust and loyalty are what I cherish abobe everything and openness is right there next in line so with him being so shut in well it stings you know?
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Only sketchy information, but my most charitable interpretation is that he's a young guy who's bought into the whole strong, silent man mythology, who isn't very in-touch with his emotional side, and who is possibly insecure about sex, maybe because he doesn't know much about it - because, hey, it's all supposed to come naturally if you're one of those strong, silent men, right?
Alternatively, he could be a controlling dickhead who wants to control the information you have about him, who wants to control you during sex and who - since he knows you worry - deliberately uses uncertainty to push your buttons (which is obviously another aspect of control).
For what it's worth, it wasn't until I'd been through one marriage and was nearly 30 that I finally understood that guys didn't have to be like the emotionally repressed father I learned how to be a guy from. Maybe he's not a hopeless case and he just needs to learn and grow up, or maybe he's a controlling asshole with psychopathic tendencies. You have a far better idea than anyone here.
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The top one sounds pretty accurate only he's 40, I'm the young one in this relastionship, I'm 20 with no experience in any of this and he has been in many relastionships including a semi abusive wife, at least there divorce was abusive she litterally attacked him. He could be insecure maybe, I know he worries that i think about other men or something since he's a chubbier guy and well his appearance had to grow on me I wasn't attracted to him right away, I've told him countless times that as my feelings grew for him so did my attraction for him, anyways he feels I'm out of his league being tall and skinny and what not. It's ludicrous if you ask me, that's true maybe he's trying to push my buttons. Either way he has he knows I'm a vindictive grudge holding bitch and this would be the first hopefully last time he opens that side of me. I'm stubborn as a dead mule haha. Na I think he just needs to mature and grow up and learn to be more open with me, if he can't I fear and believe we will not last. Honesty trust and loyalty are what I cherish abobe everything and openness is right there next in line so with him being so shut in well it stings you know?