I’m gonna go off on the assumption that you’re an introvert and he’s an extrovert. Btw I’m 18 and have no expertise in this subject, but would like to try.
He probably thinks you’re bored or have nothing to do while he’s not around, and might pity you. If you’re both above the age of 25ish you guys should be mature enough to not care about each others status in society (like “Oh, she’s a loser because she has no friends).
So, to fix this problem of not having friends, is to be friendly, funny, and have a passion for something. Having hobbies make people look fuller than they actually are and gives the illusion of depth in character (I say illusion because everyone has something of a hobby or favored activity, so it’s not somehing of importance). Since you’re probably an introvert you might like video games, even though you’re a girl (I think). You can play with people online and practice having conversations with them. If you have an Oculus, you can practice talking to people in VR (virtual reality) where it’s easy for people to conversate. If you don’t like games, than I don’t know why you’re SO DAMN socially awkward, just kidding.
Humor will take you a long way in making friends. You don’t have to be witty, just have a sense of humor and laugh. Personally, I don’t think I’m funny (I’m an introvert and kind of boring) but my friends think I’m hilarious. Dark humor is what I really like and I think it’s funny to joke about racism, terrorism, politics, gender stuff, everything is funny to me because I understand what a joke is.
To make his friends your friends, use the humor. Guys like funny girls or girls with a sense of humor (not like like, just friendly). Understand what their sense of comedy is and adapt to it. I understand with certain people what is okay to joke about, and sometimes push the boundaries to see how they would react.
TL:DR Be funny/ sense of humor is #1. I typed a lot because I used to be like you (guy tho) and feel for you. I’m still introverted, but I’m not shy. I just won’t talk unless I have something to say.
He has loads of friends
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I’m gonna go off on the assumption that you’re an introvert and he’s an extrovert. Btw I’m 18 and have no expertise in this subject, but would like to try.
He probably thinks you’re bored or have nothing to do while he’s not around, and might pity you. If you’re both above the age of 25ish you guys should be mature enough to not care about each others status in society (like “Oh, she’s a loser because she has no friends).
So, to fix this problem of not having friends, is to be friendly, funny, and have a passion for something. Having hobbies make people look fuller than they actually are and gives the illusion of depth in character (I say illusion because everyone has something of a hobby or favored activity, so it’s not somehing of importance). Since you’re probably an introvert you might like video games, even though you’re a girl (I think). You can play with people online and practice having conversations with them. If you have an Oculus, you can practice talking to people in VR (virtual reality) where it’s easy for people to conversate. If you don’t like games, than I don’t know why you’re SO DAMN socially awkward, just kidding.
Humor will take you a long way in making friends. You don’t have to be witty, just have a sense of humor and laugh. Personally, I don’t think I’m funny (I’m an introvert and kind of boring) but my friends think I’m hilarious. Dark humor is what I really like and I think it’s funny to joke about racism, terrorism, politics, gender stuff, everything is funny to me because I understand what a joke is.
To make his friends your friends, use the humor. Guys like funny girls or girls with a sense of humor (not like like, just friendly). Understand what their sense of comedy is and adapt to it. I understand with certain people what is okay to joke about, and sometimes push the boundaries to see how they would react.
TL:DR Be funny/ sense of humor is #1. I typed a lot because I used to be like you (guy tho) and feel for you. I’m still introverted, but I’m not shy. I just won’t talk unless I have something to say.