I appreciate this viewpoint and we do both talk to each other about our struggles and successes when they happen. I have been there for him through thick and thin. I don’t neglect his struggles. Not everything is crap for him right now, he actually just got a big promotion and I was/am so proud and happy for him. He deserved it. Now he’s adjusting to the new role and it has it challenges as well, and I do what I can to support him. It just feels very one sided. I know I shouldn’t need validation from someone, but I just wish he’d be genuinely happy for me the way I genuinely am for him. I feel like I should be able to share those things with a partner without it being considered bragging
I'll take back about half of what I said. You made it sound in the op that he was really going through some rough times.
But if he is working,and just got a promotion, and just has a few challenges of the new job, then you're not wrong in expecting a little bit of support and happiness for your successes from him.
I'll just say this, some people just can't celebrate or enjoy other's successes. Life is all about them and you'll get a "that's nice", "good job", or some minor pats on the back, but they just don't know how to enjoy somebody else's victories or success.
He can’t be happy for me?
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I appreciate this viewpoint and we do both talk to each other about our struggles and successes when they happen. I have been there for him through thick and thin. I don’t neglect his struggles. Not everything is crap for him right now, he actually just got a big promotion and I was/am so proud and happy for him. He deserved it. Now he’s adjusting to the new role and it has it challenges as well, and I do what I can to support him. It just feels very one sided. I know I shouldn’t need validation from someone, but I just wish he’d be genuinely happy for me the way I genuinely am for him. I feel like I should be able to share those things with a partner without it being considered bragging
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I'll take back about half of what I said. You made it sound in the op that he was really going through some rough times.
But if he is working,and just got a promotion, and just has a few challenges of the new job, then you're not wrong in expecting a little bit of support and happiness for your successes from him.
I'll just say this, some people just can't celebrate or enjoy other's successes. Life is all about them and you'll get a "that's nice", "good job", or some minor pats on the back, but they just don't know how to enjoy somebody else's victories or success.
Wanting your partner to be happy for you isn’t too much to ask. If your partner won’t be your biggest supporter who will be?