Having sex if your boy/girlfriend aren't in the same state.

My boyfriend recently asked if I would be okay with following the "you can have sex if you aren't in the same state as your girlfriend/boyfriend" rule.

I was just wondering what everyone thought because I'm thinking this is not okay. At all. To me cheating is cheating.

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  • delling

    Either be in an open relationship or not. He needs to make up his mind instead of constantly looking for loopholes.

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  • Gidget

    Well id still be with my ex if we applied that rule lol no but cheating is cheating

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  • joemommamia

    What kinda rule is that? Sounds like he is in a state of confusion. And if I were you I make sure he is in a state of hurt! LOL!

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  • deathboy222

    Wow haven't any of you heard of an open relationship??? if you both agree to love eachother unconditionally, but you both agree that you can have sex with other people, then thats what called an open relationship...very common these days. Not wrong, just a choice.

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  • Katie96

    I would be surprised if he hasn't already cheated. If he hasn't, it won't be very long before he does. That's why they call it "CHEATING".

    Dump him. He isnt the kind of guy you want to be in love with. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Get rid of him like a bad booger! :)

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  • andrian007

    This guy is clearly not the one for you. He just wants sex and takes no consideration of your feelings. Chuck him.

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  • roadrunnerxo

    IF it was an equal agreement to be able to "cheat" while out of state, between the both of you, I could see this being possible. But if one person in the couple does not agree, there needs to be a compromise, all or nothing I like to call it.

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  • nothing2

    if you do, don't tell them. but you should'nt. that's a terrible thing

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  • Alaxett

    One of my ex-gf was so horny that I have to get out of relationship... we wasn't together for too long and I had to fake orgasm every time. It just don't feel like a real sex to me, so thanks to her I have no idea what it is like for a longer period. I think it's a good idea cool down for a bit to build some trust and appreciation, but if that take too long for you two in bed, then something is wrong... still, I don't see why cheating is bring up in topic.

    Take it with a grain of salt. I'm just one guy with my own experience and male perspective.

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  • BigRedOne

    Sounds like he made that rule up for his own convenience LOL.

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  • easilygreat

    as ricki lake would say : dump that zero and get yourself a hero.

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  • Jen118584

    Not okay. I wouldn't trust him at all now if I were you.

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  • Cheating. That is, if you want a relationship where there is fidelity.

    He wants you to consent to changing the rules. You obviously don't want to and that is fine.

    Now you have to decide if the guy who would put this proposal to you is really the guy for you. Its obvious what's on his mind.

    He may think it is sort of, maybe, somehow *** add weasel words here *** not cheating if you both consent. But it is not fidelity.

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  • matches

    I agree with you 100%% it sounds like he wants an excuse to sew his oats. Unless he is having phone or computer sex with you and you alone it is cheating!

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