It's hard to say. It's impossible for me to predict an alternate outcome where i don't exist. I would lean toward saying yes though.
Plenty of Ex parents can't stand talking to each other even though they must in order to communicate child care an all that stuff. On top of that, they let the courts decide basically how the families lives are going to be lived from then on.
With my parents, they just split up peacefully, let me and my brother choose where to go, then agreed on child support terms based on that. It's been almost 7 years of that and they still manage to laugh on the phone whenever they talk about arranging stuff for me or my brother and there is plenty of small talk in between.
That's a very good question though. There are people out there who have just agreed to be friendly for the sake of others around them, like children. And that is just as admirable as those who would be naturally friendly to an Ex. It all depends on the situation you're in but doing what will bring the most happiness to you and the people around you seems like the way to go.
And there will be certain situations where never communicating with someone ever again IS the best way to achieve the most happiness. But let that be your last option not your first. I would ensure that a regular friendship couldn't be established first before I shut someone out for good.
being friends with an ex in a situation involving kids. is a real mature and respectful thing do to. However i suspect there are many situations where guys/girls have ex(s) as friends as a 'rebound' if their current relationship doesn't work out.
i guess it depends on the maturity of the people and their loyalty
Having an Ex as a friend?
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It's hard to say. It's impossible for me to predict an alternate outcome where i don't exist. I would lean toward saying yes though.
Plenty of Ex parents can't stand talking to each other even though they must in order to communicate child care an all that stuff. On top of that, they let the courts decide basically how the families lives are going to be lived from then on.
With my parents, they just split up peacefully, let me and my brother choose where to go, then agreed on child support terms based on that. It's been almost 7 years of that and they still manage to laugh on the phone whenever they talk about arranging stuff for me or my brother and there is plenty of small talk in between.
That's a very good question though. There are people out there who have just agreed to be friendly for the sake of others around them, like children. And that is just as admirable as those who would be naturally friendly to an Ex. It all depends on the situation you're in but doing what will bring the most happiness to you and the people around you seems like the way to go.
And there will be certain situations where never communicating with someone ever again IS the best way to achieve the most happiness. But let that be your last option not your first. I would ensure that a regular friendship couldn't be established first before I shut someone out for good.
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i agree with you so much.
being friends with an ex in a situation involving kids. is a real mature and respectful thing do to. However i suspect there are many situations where guys/girls have ex(s) as friends as a 'rebound' if their current relationship doesn't work out.
i guess it depends on the maturity of the people and their loyalty
thank you for opening up on here.