Okay so I used to be the 'savior' one. No joke. I hate myself for it, yay.
I didn't straight up decided 'oh I gotta save this dude', but we met online and he kept asking to talk with me and I was ok with that so we made friends. I kept trying to keep the conversation going, cos he didn't seem like he knew how to make a conversation (not saying I do that well, I'm below decent on a good day, but oh well). Turned out that he didn't speak with anyone irl and I was basically the only person he spoke to. He kept referring to me as some sort of goddess or some savior which made me really uncomfortable cos I just wanted a friend and he was in awe of me and that wasn't great. So I'd ignore that. Eventually it got too much for me. It's not like I'm trying to rescue everything - yes, I do like to help my friends as much as I possibly can but c'mon. I completely ghosted on him because he was just too much with the obsession with me, all because I told him he was a nice person.
It's not really anywhere close to your situation, I think, but it's similar enough. Try not to let people be a savior. I don't know you and don't know you well enough or have seen any other posts to properly say whether or not you were the one putting them on a pedestal but even if it's not, if someone acts like a savior, you can shout 'TOXIC!' from the roofs in France, ok? It's not a fun relationship for either of the people involved and even if they enjoy being the savior, it can get uncomfortable and over the top at times.
Hope this helped I guess?? It's a bit of a long paragraph but I can't be bothered to edit lol
Have you had a satisfying friendship with someone with a saviour complex?
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Okay so I used to be the 'savior' one. No joke. I hate myself for it, yay.
I didn't straight up decided 'oh I gotta save this dude', but we met online and he kept asking to talk with me and I was ok with that so we made friends. I kept trying to keep the conversation going, cos he didn't seem like he knew how to make a conversation (not saying I do that well, I'm below decent on a good day, but oh well). Turned out that he didn't speak with anyone irl and I was basically the only person he spoke to. He kept referring to me as some sort of goddess or some savior which made me really uncomfortable cos I just wanted a friend and he was in awe of me and that wasn't great. So I'd ignore that. Eventually it got too much for me. It's not like I'm trying to rescue everything - yes, I do like to help my friends as much as I possibly can but c'mon. I completely ghosted on him because he was just too much with the obsession with me, all because I told him he was a nice person.
It's not really anywhere close to your situation, I think, but it's similar enough. Try not to let people be a savior. I don't know you and don't know you well enough or have seen any other posts to properly say whether or not you were the one putting them on a pedestal but even if it's not, if someone acts like a savior, you can shout 'TOXIC!' from the roofs in France, ok? It's not a fun relationship for either of the people involved and even if they enjoy being the savior, it can get uncomfortable and over the top at times.
Hope this helped I guess?? It's a bit of a long paragraph but I can't be bothered to edit lol