To be absolutely clear, I'm equally bothered by the men who said they have cheated or would cheat. There's just less of them in the poll, which is why I mentioned the ladies only; their result is disproportionately high :P
The only way I could ever understand it would be if someone was in an abusive relationship and they desperately needed affection from somewhere else, but at the same time had been manipulated too much to leave their relationship. In normal situations it's never ever ever okay.
It's not as simple as not being with someone in the first place, sadly. You can enter into a relationship thinking it's a good relationship, but once your partner becomes abusive the rules have changed and I think cheating on an abusive partner is forgivable (not necessarily right, but forgivable). At least that's how I see it.
Yes I can see that as forgiveable too depending on the situation but at the same time they should break up with that person in the first place before thinking about having sex with another even if it was abusive. Thats what I don't understand is how can you stay in an abusive relationship when that person is hurting you; that's not love. :\
There are reasons I believe it's best to know the person as friends for a while before entering a relationship. It takes time to "actually" get to know someone. :)
I agree with Saycheese, If your not happy with the relationship then get out of it. The excuse, "it's easier said than done" is not a legitimate excuse. Just have the backbone to break up and move on.
Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Why?
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To be absolutely clear, I'm equally bothered by the men who said they have cheated or would cheat. There's just less of them in the poll, which is why I mentioned the ladies only; their result is disproportionately high :P
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Oh no worries. I understand your thoughts too. I don't understand why people would do such a thing. :\ It's just not right.
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The only way I could ever understand it would be if someone was in an abusive relationship and they desperately needed affection from somewhere else, but at the same time had been manipulated too much to leave their relationship. In normal situations it's never ever ever okay.
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No it isn't I don't care what others say that we don't understand what it's like to not have control. Just don't be with someone in the first place.
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It's not as simple as not being with someone in the first place, sadly. You can enter into a relationship thinking it's a good relationship, but once your partner becomes abusive the rules have changed and I think cheating on an abusive partner is forgivable (not necessarily right, but forgivable). At least that's how I see it.
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Yes I can see that as forgiveable too depending on the situation but at the same time they should break up with that person in the first place before thinking about having sex with another even if it was abusive. Thats what I don't understand is how can you stay in an abusive relationship when that person is hurting you; that's not love. :\
There are reasons I believe it's best to know the person as friends for a while before entering a relationship. It takes time to "actually" get to know someone. :)
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I agree with Saycheese, If your not happy with the relationship then get out of it. The excuse, "it's easier said than done" is not a legitimate excuse. Just have the backbone to break up and move on.