I'm not here to change your views as I have absolutly no right to but I would just like to say. "I cheated on my ex partner because I was not getting what I wanted/needed from my (then) partner. What was I supposed to do join the nunnery and give up sex. It's brilliant if you're one of those lucky people who finds their ideal partner and has a fulfilling love life". I must say though as soon as I had slept with the other man I knew there was no going back and saving the relationship, which is ashame because I did like him for himself. However saying that though had we stayed together I wouldn't have had my daughter. I guess everything happens/doesn't happen for a reason. xx
You could have at least left him first before going off & betraying the entire reasoning behind relationships. It's easier to get over being dumped than betrayed.
I'm glad you can see my side of the "argument," if you will. I think whether they find out or not, it's still a betrayal of the relationship & I personally would have the most crippling guilty conscience.
It isn't an argument it is just different view points and yes we are all entitltled to them and they're healthy too. If we all agreed on everything it would be a very nice world
but also a very boring world.
Like I said I was in a relationship with no sex what was
I was I to do give up sex? I'm a human being with desires who
wants to feel attractive to the oppersite sex that doesn't
make me abnormal. Sorry but I don't feel guilty at all.
I'll ask you this what would you do if you were with someone and they didn't want to make love with you. xx
I think you're missing my point... Haha. I'm trying to say no, you shouldn't have to give up sex BUT you should have left the original relationship before engaging in another sexual relationship.
What I would do if I was in love but not receiving sex? Well I'd happily stay in the relationship with full dedication to loving the partner. The time for sex would come eventually, & I could happily wait.
Well that's fantastic that you feel that you could
wait for sex and I can only applaud you for that. However we are not built to the same plan (how boring would it be if we were) and rightly or wrongly the closness and pleaure
of sex is far more important to me that dedication in a relationship. I may sound cold hearted but at least I am being honest.
For the record I did not engage in a sexual relationship
it was a one night encounter. x
Have you ever cheated on a significant other? Why?
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I'm not here to change your views as I have absolutly no right to but I would just like to say. "I cheated on my ex partner because I was not getting what I wanted/needed from my (then) partner. What was I supposed to do join the nunnery and give up sex. It's brilliant if you're one of those lucky people who finds their ideal partner and has a fulfilling love life". I must say though as soon as I had slept with the other man I knew there was no going back and saving the relationship, which is ashame because I did like him for himself. However saying that though had we stayed together I wouldn't have had my daughter. I guess everything happens/doesn't happen for a reason. xx
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You could have at least left him first before going off & betraying the entire reasoning behind relationships. It's easier to get over being dumped than betrayed.
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That's fair comment I suppose, but he never found out that I had cheated. x
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I'm glad you can see my side of the "argument," if you will. I think whether they find out or not, it's still a betrayal of the relationship & I personally would have the most crippling guilty conscience.
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It isn't an argument it is just different view points and yes we are all entitltled to them and they're healthy too. If we all agreed on everything it would be a very nice world
but also a very boring world.
Like I said I was in a relationship with no sex what was
I was I to do give up sex? I'm a human being with desires who
wants to feel attractive to the oppersite sex that doesn't
make me abnormal. Sorry but I don't feel guilty at all.
I'll ask you this what would you do if you were with someone and they didn't want to make love with you. xx
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I think you're missing my point... Haha. I'm trying to say no, you shouldn't have to give up sex BUT you should have left the original relationship before engaging in another sexual relationship.
What I would do if I was in love but not receiving sex? Well I'd happily stay in the relationship with full dedication to loving the partner. The time for sex would come eventually, & I could happily wait.
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Well that's fantastic that you feel that you could
wait for sex and I can only applaud you for that. However we are not built to the same plan (how boring would it be if we were) and rightly or wrongly the closness and pleaure
of sex is far more important to me that dedication in a relationship. I may sound cold hearted but at least I am being honest.
For the record I did not engage in a sexual relationship
it was a one night encounter. x