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have you ever been a victim of sexual assault? how old were you? how long ago since the tragedy? how has it affected your life? what if any repercussions did the attacker face?
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For myself, I was 27, it was 1987, I was in the Navy, my supervisor that I did have respect for, asked me if I wanted to go for a ride, during daytime work hours, anyway to cut it short he was a corpsman (wanna be a doc someday) told me he had something for my medical situation, as it turns out he used his "doc" position to get people to drop their pants, then he started in with his molesting. True I didnt fight, but being in military I was under the military laws and to hit or assault a senior person is grounds for going to Captains Mast, (like going to see a judge). Myself and a female I worked with, who he also assaulted, went to other senior supervisors, they just said "he's being transferred out" and that was all that was done about it. I was pissed, so much for justice in the military. I have dealt with depression for years because of that ordeal. If I was ever to run into him on the street, I dont know what I would do or say to him.
Twice.
In once instance, a male who was 23 attempted to rape me when I was 16 and I had to fight my way out of his house. In another, a much older man shoved his hand down my pants pretty much at random.
The traumatizing part was more with the older man, to be honest. No one has ever given me shit for the 23 year old because I fought back with every bit of tenacity that I could muster but I've never been placed in a position where I have needed to defend myself against someone who is way older and weaker than me so I was caught completely off guard. Some people take my lack of violent physical resistance as my consenting to it or enjoying it whilst I did resist but not violently.
I'll tell you guys this, I'm a huge fucking pervert and I am impulsive as shit. That said, I would never and have never touched someone in a sexual manner against their will. Ever. Most people know and understand that this is wrong. If I have ever made any sexually offensive comments to anyone and they reacted in a manner that did not directly indicate to me that they felt totally comfortable with the compliment (as in, they did not take the discussion further), then I have stopped my innuendos. Most people know the difference between right and wrong.
You should NEVER have to be violent or vehemently vocal toward anyone else to receive the same basic respects that the majority of other people on the streets know to provide to you. If you seriously have to put your foot down more than .5 times, the problem is them. Not you. Some people are just fucking stupid but treating others with dignity doesn't take a whole lotta smarts.
This applies across the board. All genders, sexes, races etc.
Yuuuup. Probably more if unconsented touching counts as assault and not harassment. I won't go in to detail about my "yuup" but the unconsented touching happened way too much. I would go to highschool and get slapped on my rear by two of these girls pretty often. Then I got to highschool and then the same happened there but with a transvestite and a girl. Then there was the time in highschool when this girl grabbed my "member" in IT class and just couldn't get over that I moved her hand away. Because who doesn't want to have their cock grabbed in class infront of everybody from someone you don't know very well?
That's fucking disgusting, man. Not to talk myself up or anything but I'd gladly publicly and vocally bash anyone who thinks that grabbing some random dude's dong for no fucking reason is in any way acceptable. You shouldn't need a fucking reason to not want your dick touched... Hell, no one asks me why I don't like strangers touching my fucking car and it's a fucking car.
...I'm not bitchin' at ya that kind of shit just pisses me off.
Oh, that one was a girl. I was refering to the transvetite that always slapped my ass in college. Right infront of teachers too! I wasn't too fussed though. What annoyed me was that I got my ass slapped by two people in that class often, an the got nothing. A guy with autism said something abut a dildo to a girl and got kicked out. Duble standard much!? Not like my lovely ass ain't being given the Mr Grey treatment! Sheesh. Aha.
But yeah, she was weird. She responded with "What are you, gay?" Not in the like "Oh, he might be gay" type of way but with the "You should thank me" type of way.
I was fine when those happened though. I get over things quickly. The most confusing one was when I was in town after school with my friend and this girl walks up to me and presses her chest against mine, does that up and down look thing, then done that cliche female stance thing, with the hip out and hand on it, then walked back to her friend. I was standing there lik "0_0"...I felt sorry for my friend. He would of wanted that way more than me. Aha.
No need to get angry about it, though. Shit happens and I wasn't too fussed about them. The anger on my behalf is appreciated though. :P
I think we tend to stereotype males as pigs. So most people assume all men are going to enjoy a female randomly coming onto them like this so you saying no probably hurt her ego. Like "Oh im just not pretty enough". Not all dudes are like that but I dont think most people see past the stereotype and just assume if he has a dick hes going to want to mount everything he spots that is female. I also think many men feel they have to be that way based on society standards.
That was the "yuuuup" part I said I wasn't going to go in to detail on. Buuuuuuuuuuuuut I guess you kinda blew that part open. Ya bitch. >:| Lol. I'm personally over it but let's be honest, nobody likes certain details, including me. Find yo' rape novels somewhere else! :P
It's fine. Just don't ever do it again or there will be attempted beatings!...Attempted being the key word here. :(
No problemo! We all know I can make my comments hard to understand. However, there is a problemo with you refering to my pants as slutty. They're not slutty, they're cumdumpster-pants! So now I must act out the American Psycho thing when he kills paul...Mainly just because I want to do the funky dance Patrick does with the axe. >;)
It wasn't violent, but I was a barely 16 yo virgin, she was 21. She took me to her place after a party at the place we both worked. As soon as we were inside, faster than I could even think she had us both stripped and you can fill in the rest. Best night of my young life!
Even though he seems to have been completely okay with her sexual advances now, we don't know if back then, he was okay with it. He never once said he consented.
And in no way does sexual assault have to be "violent". Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact or behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient, and until we here was he has to say about his mindset at the time, then we can't assume it wasn't sexual assault.
I was molested by a woman when i was 3 then by cousins when I was 7. I was raped when I was 15. The guy was 20something. I was a virgin. I was a very innocent and sweet girl originally. Then I basically became an emo slut. Went from an all A student to making failing grades. When I was 17 I had an abusive boyfriend who was in his 20s and he raped me when I wouldn't just give him sex. Attempted suicide about a month later (pill overdose). Still had slutty behavior. Now I'm 22 and I've never had an orgasm from sex. I have a loving boyfriend now. I realize that when we have sex I am extremely kinky and dirty and there's almost nothing I won't do but I don't get much pleasure out of it.