Yeah, i had. Funny thing is: He was a guy and he knew i prefer girls, so he never got any hopes up for a relation. It was really just buddy-stuff in a casual clique, and usually ending up having sex. That far, it was fine. But when we had to move to another part of town, it kind of went downhill.
Basically he would only use me as "booty call", that is, every time we met it would be about sex, and there was little time for anything else.
Now of course THAT can also work, but not if you start with a friendship. Eventually, time between meetings became longer until we eventually stopped calling(me first, half a year later him too).
We met at a mutual friends birthday party a while ago and took a "party break" in her flatmates room, but other than that, contact has not been reetablished.
Another guy with whom it worked nice eventually got a girlfriend. He continued meeting with me for a while, telling neither of us. Funny thing: I had shoulder-long blue hair back then and she found some of my hair in their bed(as i later heard). He made up excuses about that but, when he took her to the student bar we and friends were usually going to and greeted us, and she saw me, she slapped him, turned around on the spot and left. Obviously, he had some explaining to do and we ended that right there.
So long story short: Yes, and it is great fun, but know going in that there's a unknown "best before"-stamp on those kinds of relations.
They are fun while they last, but there's not enough "bonding" in there to make them last over problematic times, the novelty may eventually wear off, or it may become more than it should be for either partner.
But by all means, go for it and enjoy the ride. I had and would again, with the RIGHT kind of people.(Sadly, my definition of "right" narrowed down a lot over time).
This is a concept for matured who can balance very well, especially where I am (Hyderabad,India). This works well for like minded people and who respect each others personal space and respective interests. (According to me the movie ended the way it did because it was between to kids who are not matured enough to handle it)If it is not between matured people (not by age but by mind)it is safe not taken.
Disclaimer is it is my view from observation and practise :)
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Yeah, i had. Funny thing is: He was a guy and he knew i prefer girls, so he never got any hopes up for a relation. It was really just buddy-stuff in a casual clique, and usually ending up having sex. That far, it was fine. But when we had to move to another part of town, it kind of went downhill.
Basically he would only use me as "booty call", that is, every time we met it would be about sex, and there was little time for anything else.
Now of course THAT can also work, but not if you start with a friendship. Eventually, time between meetings became longer until we eventually stopped calling(me first, half a year later him too).
We met at a mutual friends birthday party a while ago and took a "party break" in her flatmates room, but other than that, contact has not been reetablished.
Another guy with whom it worked nice eventually got a girlfriend. He continued meeting with me for a while, telling neither of us. Funny thing: I had shoulder-long blue hair back then and she found some of my hair in their bed(as i later heard). He made up excuses about that but, when he took her to the student bar we and friends were usually going to and greeted us, and she saw me, she slapped him, turned around on the spot and left. Obviously, he had some explaining to do and we ended that right there.
So long story short: Yes, and it is great fun, but know going in that there's a unknown "best before"-stamp on those kinds of relations.
They are fun while they last, but there's not enough "bonding" in there to make them last over problematic times, the novelty may eventually wear off, or it may become more than it should be for either partner.
But by all means, go for it and enjoy the ride. I had and would again, with the RIGHT kind of people.(Sadly, my definition of "right" narrowed down a lot over time).
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This is a concept for matured who can balance very well, especially where I am (Hyderabad,India). This works well for like minded people and who respect each others personal space and respective interests. (According to me the movie ended the way it did because it was between to kids who are not matured enough to handle it)If it is not between matured people (not by age but by mind)it is safe not taken.
Disclaimer is it is my view from observation and practise :)