Are you sure it's not a crush like infatuation? Can you think of the things about him that actually make you like him? He used you, and its great that you can forgive him, but that doesn't mean he is relationship material. Maybe he seems like he would be a good fit now that he has some life experience and maybe he has changed, but you don't know why kind of person he is when he gets home. I think you should move on with life, if its meant to be, something will happen, but don't hold out for it, in my opinion.
I agree with said statement but I'm going to add a few things. She shouldn't feel as if she did anything wrong to not be the apple of his eye. I find it sad that she has feelings for a guy that knowingly used her body with no remorse just because he wasn't mature enough and to hormonal to think of her feelings. It isn't your fault he didn't like you the same way, someone may be thinking about you the same way and or vies for your affection. I'm sorry that you're still haunted by his memory. Many people have had these same feelings, sometimes you just have to bury them and find a way to distract these infatuations
Ummm I think you may have missed the part where I said that he got married and that I have a boyfriend. I am not wishing or holding out for him and I to suddenly get back together at all. But he does cross my mind often probably because he is the one who got away, and I honestly dont know what I would say to him if I were to see him again. You are right in the sense that I probably have an idealized version of him in my head and I really dont know what kind of person he is anymore, but I am definitely not holding out for him to get divorced and come looking for me lol! Now that's just crazy.
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Are you sure it's not a crush like infatuation? Can you think of the things about him that actually make you like him? He used you, and its great that you can forgive him, but that doesn't mean he is relationship material. Maybe he seems like he would be a good fit now that he has some life experience and maybe he has changed, but you don't know why kind of person he is when he gets home. I think you should move on with life, if its meant to be, something will happen, but don't hold out for it, in my opinion.
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I agree with said statement but I'm going to add a few things. She shouldn't feel as if she did anything wrong to not be the apple of his eye. I find it sad that she has feelings for a guy that knowingly used her body with no remorse just because he wasn't mature enough and to hormonal to think of her feelings. It isn't your fault he didn't like you the same way, someone may be thinking about you the same way and or vies for your affection. I'm sorry that you're still haunted by his memory. Many people have had these same feelings, sometimes you just have to bury them and find a way to distract these infatuations
Ummm I think you may have missed the part where I said that he got married and that I have a boyfriend. I am not wishing or holding out for him and I to suddenly get back together at all. But he does cross my mind often probably because he is the one who got away, and I honestly dont know what I would say to him if I were to see him again. You are right in the sense that I probably have an idealized version of him in my head and I really dont know what kind of person he is anymore, but I am definitely not holding out for him to get divorced and come looking for me lol! Now that's just crazy.
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Okay I was just making sure. Just look forward and be happy :D