Hate eating with other people

I hate eating together with other people.
I have social anxiety so it could have something to do with that idk but it's the same whomever it is, even with family or a partner or friends.
As a kid I always left all my food in school etc. because I felt so uncomfortable by people looking at me when I eat, seeing other people eat which grosses me out and also the pressure to be social which stresses me out. I am incapable of focusing on both eating and being social at the same time so I either take extremely long to eat because if someone starts talking to me I stop eating and don't continue until they've shut up or I don't say a word to anyone during the entire meal.
If i'm at a date and the person i'm with looks at me I put my cutlery down and stop eating and sometimes the guy notice this and starts staring at me because he thinks he's being funny but it makes me really anxious and sad inside.

Is It Normal?
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  • Then don't.

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    • Well you're kinda forced to at times.
      At home I usually grab my food, head into my room to eat but some days I feel pressured not to do that.
      Also at work I can already come off as rude due to being shy and not very good at making contact with co-workers or keep a conversation going so leaving work to eat out feels like i'll just come off as hating everyone and not wanting to have any friends at all.

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  • Yea, I used to skip eating lunch every day in high school because of this...or eat in the washroom.

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    • Same I ate with my classmates because I felt forced to due to "social norms" but eventually I just stopped. Left the school building and went somewhere else to eat.

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  • Just focus on the food.

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  • I think it's normal. I don't like people watching me eat, either. I can usually eat with others okay and chat a bit in between (though I usually take forever to eat if I talk too much), but I get feeling uncomfortable being watched while you eat. I was way more self conscious as a teenager when I was chubby and always feared that people were judging me and laughing internally.

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  • It’s something you need to fix, people are going think you’re weird in the workplace.

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  • Dude you described me perfectly. I do that too. My biggest pet peve is people eating or chewing gum. It makes me so mad. I usually try to walk away. My wife knows how I am so we work around it. Most ppl dont get it.

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