I dated a self-proclaimed narcissist and he treated me like fucking bollocks and I never complained. He then dumped me very bitterly for no good reason at all and he has never apologized for the lame shit he's done to me. Thankfully, no one likes him and I can't foresee any girlfriends in his future because of his shitty personality and social skills, so maybe one day he'll look back and think, "Hmm, I really did treat [me] like shit. I should go apologize, and then change my ways and move on." I hope.
If he's a self proclaimed narcissist, then he isn't really a narcissist. Admitting they are a narcissist would be admitting there is something wrong with them, which narcissists believe nothing is wrong with them and that they're perfect.
I do believe that he is a true narcissist. He's also emotionless and rude. I am not exaggerating; he truly is. He does not and never has shown any love for his family, friends (he now has no friends) or me. He explained that he went through a phase of hating himself and has then become a narcissist. He spends a lot of time trying to make himself more "perfect" and he brags a lot about his admittedly impressive penis size. He has never shown any remorse for any of his actions, from the far past to the near past. He can do something horrible and when someone confronts him he refuses to listen and will walk away from them and ignore them, unaffected. He is simply unaffected by anything.
He's a really unpleasant person and has caused me a world's worth of pain. Whenever I am forced to see him, my heart stings and I feel anger. I greatly desire an apology from him but he is a cold, unfeeling, and holy motherfucker who is too proud.
He might be, but I severely doubt it. Narcissists play for the group, they want people to like them, not hate them. So they wouldn't put themselves in such an enviroment that makes them look like a "loser" as some would put it.
Narcissists aren't emotionless, they just lack emotions for others, while are emotional about themselves.
Someone doesn't just turn in to a narcissist. If he hated himself, then that is him obviously implying that he had flaws, which led to self hate. People don't become narcissists, it progresses, it was always in the narcissist.
I don't think a narcissist would just "walk away" from confrontation, they would more so challenge the person confronting them.
Remember, narcissists want people to like them, they want people to envy and like them, not the opposite.
Take me for example; I am quite a lot of the things you listed, but by no means a narcissist.
I am "emotionless" as people say, I don't show love towards the people I know unless I want something, I spend a lot of my time trying to be perfect (It's human nature), I brag about certain things, I have engaged in quite a bit of crime that left a few victims of my crimes and don't feel remorse for them, etc.
The guy sounds like an asshole, that is obvious, but he doesn't really seem narcissistic. He doesn't fit in to what narcissists do.
Sure, he might have a large ego and is arrogant, but so are many people, that doesn't mean they're a narcissist.
Real narcissism is quite rare, but easily mistaken for someone with an ego.
So what's wrong with him? The only emotion he shows is anger. I want to read more to figure out how to deal with him but I can't figure out what sort of personality disorder he has.
He could well have a personality dissorder, but I doubt it's narcissism. He might not have one at all. No point looking in to it if you don't want any contact with him.
Despite my hate for him, I am very interested in his personality, as it is a mystery to me and others. I truly want to find out what is wrong with him. Thank you for providing me with an incentive to begin this research! :)
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I dated a self-proclaimed narcissist and he treated me like fucking bollocks and I never complained. He then dumped me very bitterly for no good reason at all and he has never apologized for the lame shit he's done to me. Thankfully, no one likes him and I can't foresee any girlfriends in his future because of his shitty personality and social skills, so maybe one day he'll look back and think, "Hmm, I really did treat [me] like shit. I should go apologize, and then change my ways and move on." I hope.
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If he's a self proclaimed narcissist, then he isn't really a narcissist. Admitting they are a narcissist would be admitting there is something wrong with them, which narcissists believe nothing is wrong with them and that they're perfect.
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I do believe that he is a true narcissist. He's also emotionless and rude. I am not exaggerating; he truly is. He does not and never has shown any love for his family, friends (he now has no friends) or me. He explained that he went through a phase of hating himself and has then become a narcissist. He spends a lot of time trying to make himself more "perfect" and he brags a lot about his admittedly impressive penis size. He has never shown any remorse for any of his actions, from the far past to the near past. He can do something horrible and when someone confronts him he refuses to listen and will walk away from them and ignore them, unaffected. He is simply unaffected by anything.
He's a really unpleasant person and has caused me a world's worth of pain. Whenever I am forced to see him, my heart stings and I feel anger. I greatly desire an apology from him but he is a cold, unfeeling, and holy motherfucker who is too proud.
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He might be, but I severely doubt it. Narcissists play for the group, they want people to like them, not hate them. So they wouldn't put themselves in such an enviroment that makes them look like a "loser" as some would put it.
Narcissists aren't emotionless, they just lack emotions for others, while are emotional about themselves.
Someone doesn't just turn in to a narcissist. If he hated himself, then that is him obviously implying that he had flaws, which led to self hate. People don't become narcissists, it progresses, it was always in the narcissist.
I don't think a narcissist would just "walk away" from confrontation, they would more so challenge the person confronting them.
Remember, narcissists want people to like them, they want people to envy and like them, not the opposite.
Take me for example; I am quite a lot of the things you listed, but by no means a narcissist.
I am "emotionless" as people say, I don't show love towards the people I know unless I want something, I spend a lot of my time trying to be perfect (It's human nature), I brag about certain things, I have engaged in quite a bit of crime that left a few victims of my crimes and don't feel remorse for them, etc.
The guy sounds like an asshole, that is obvious, but he doesn't really seem narcissistic. He doesn't fit in to what narcissists do.
Sure, he might have a large ego and is arrogant, but so are many people, that doesn't mean they're a narcissist.
Real narcissism is quite rare, but easily mistaken for someone with an ego.
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So what's wrong with him? The only emotion he shows is anger. I want to read more to figure out how to deal with him but I can't figure out what sort of personality disorder he has.
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He could well have a personality dissorder, but I doubt it's narcissism. He might not have one at all. No point looking in to it if you don't want any contact with him.
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Despite my hate for him, I am very interested in his personality, as it is a mystery to me and others. I truly want to find out what is wrong with him. Thank you for providing me with an incentive to begin this research! :)