How was your sex life before you got married, or when the relationship was still relatively new? Some people just have a lower sex drive than others naturally.
Are you in pretty good shape? What about him? If he's put on weight or he's feeling insecure it can greatly affect his sex drive. Is he stressed about work or bored with his job? I always know when my boyfriend is stressed or bored with his because his sex drive plummets.
Also, diet can affect the libido. I know when I eat lots of carbs or greasy, fattening food I don't feel the least bit sexy afterwards. But after eating salad or fruit, I almost always feel feisty. I don't know how much truth there is scientifically to the food-libido link, but it affects me, whether it's all in my mind or not.
There are many things that could be causing this, but approach him about it again and let him know that sex IS important to you and it should be important to him as well. Sure communication and all that stuff is great, but sex is a huge part of a relationship. Tell him you want an honest explanation from him and that you're not going to let this die. Suggest some things to him that get the libido going, like exercise, romantic nights out, or foods that make you feel sexier.
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How was your sex life before you got married, or when the relationship was still relatively new? Some people just have a lower sex drive than others naturally.
Are you in pretty good shape? What about him? If he's put on weight or he's feeling insecure it can greatly affect his sex drive. Is he stressed about work or bored with his job? I always know when my boyfriend is stressed or bored with his because his sex drive plummets.
Also, diet can affect the libido. I know when I eat lots of carbs or greasy, fattening food I don't feel the least bit sexy afterwards. But after eating salad or fruit, I almost always feel feisty. I don't know how much truth there is scientifically to the food-libido link, but it affects me, whether it's all in my mind or not.
There are many things that could be causing this, but approach him about it again and let him know that sex IS important to you and it should be important to him as well. Sure communication and all that stuff is great, but sex is a huge part of a relationship. Tell him you want an honest explanation from him and that you're not going to let this die. Suggest some things to him that get the libido going, like exercise, romantic nights out, or foods that make you feel sexier.