Hardly ever have sex in our 20's

wow... see i dont get this. sex is one of the best things ever given to mankind and i really dont know what to say to this... if i was ur husband, i would personally want to ram u like every single night. ESPECIALLY since you are only 24!!! MY GOODNESS you are YOUNG! You deserve much better than just a few times a month. OMG I WOULD DIE!!! I don't wanna say anything that mite conflict with ur relationship or nuthing, but honestly, you deserve to get much more dick in ur life and u should really talk to him about it... before you grow old and ur tits start to sag and u start shitting urself like a baby

hes probably cheating guys do that when they are cheating that or hes bored try anal

well coming from a guy, not knowing any of the other circumstances. But our sex drive can be affected a number of ways, trouble at work, stressed out about something, or even a rough patch with friends or something.

Also, in saying that you are pulling out all the stops, I don't know if that means you are changing up your sex with new things or what.

My suggestion would be to try and just have sex when it's not your "scheduled" time to have sex. I don't know if you have kids or whatnot, but maybe if the kids go to bed early, start the romance on the couch. Do something out of the ordinary in more of the ways of timing, don't wait till the end of the day when we want to sleep. Grab us in the morning on a saturday.

Also, BJs go a long way.

Get him to eat healthier foods, watch movies involving sex, let him catch you looking at another man, jealousy goes a long way (sometimes), ask him what it is that makes him horny, also there are swinger houses( it's weird) But they make hooking up seem so normal. Not saying you want to share him with anyone, but putting the sex thought in his head is good.

Also, I think that guys sometimes are bothered by something that they won't talk about, so you should encourage him to talk to you as much as possible, or give him some ultimatum about how often you should have sex.

I would suggest you stop pressuring him and get a vibrator to ease the frustration for now. Try cooling the anxiety down and be patient. When it is no longer a major issue, try talking to him about it then. Ask him what would interest and stimulate him, find out if he is stressed at work etc.

3 times a month isn't that bad, I've only had full sex twice in the last 3 months but there has been a lot of stress around. Personally for me I find sex a great release for tension, but my partner doesn't.

Sex isn't love or life stop screwing your brain darling

You are a young woman you must be so frustrated he's a 26 year old man and only wants sex three times a month !! People in long distance relationships are probably doing it more often than you guys unless he's having some sort of erection problems or emotional problems with sex theirs definitely something fishy going on I hate to say this but he's either cheating or he's gay I can't think of any other explanation cheating is more feasible I think a mistress is his causing his lack of interest in sex with you I hope I'm wrong though

I think the best time to have sex is on a saterday night. Haveing said this I use to have sex on a sunday night. I noteast that I was all stressed out at work. So do your penis and vegina thing on a saterday night!

sure it is. some people just don't put out.

You're lucky -- husband hasn't in 19 years and we are in our mid 40's!

How was your sex life before you got married, or when the relationship was still relatively new? Some people just have a lower sex drive than others naturally.

Are you in pretty good shape? What about him? If he's put on weight or he's feeling insecure it can greatly affect his sex drive. Is he stressed about work or bored with his job? I always know when my boyfriend is stressed or bored with his because his sex drive plummets.

Also, diet can affect the libido. I know when I eat lots of carbs or greasy, fattening food I don't feel the least bit sexy afterwards. But after eating salad or fruit, I almost always feel feisty. I don't know how much truth there is scientifically to the food-libido link, but it affects me, whether it's all in my mind or not.

There are many things that could be causing this, but approach him about it again and let him know that sex IS important to you and it should be important to him as well. Sure communication and all that stuff is great, but sex is a huge part of a relationship. Tell him you want an honest explanation from him and that you're not going to let this die. Suggest some things to him that get the libido going, like exercise, romantic nights out, or foods that make you feel sexier.

is he kissing you much or avoiding it at all costs?
Because this recently occured with me, it was because id fallen out of love and attraction with my girlfriend, but still had to be with her due to commitments. I know its horrible thing to say but the last thing i wanted to do was kiss her. i avoided it at all costs nevermind sex. I would sit down and have a serious talk with your husband.

Not normal. Maybe he's gay, kiddin. :P

What?

I couldn't understand you as your grammar is so damn bad. Really, what are you trying to get at? Do youl like sex, do you not? Could you please rewrite this better for us to help you.

I'm not trying to be a smartass, the title interested me but your writing is just so god awful that I truly do not understand you.