Yes and no. Depends on the situation. Some people just don't like being percieved as cute like you would view a puppy. There is a certain immaturity to being called cute in the way you describe. Look at what is typically considered cute in this context...Thought of a few? Now compare that to a human...Not very flattering, is it? Just like some people don't want to be seen as "scary" others do not want to look "cute" because it can be patronizing, not due to some sort of gender role idea as I read above...Which most I didn't see the relevance of. >_>
I would say it's both. It's definitely way more acceptable to call a female cute than a man. And there are certainly men who don't like it because it brushes their masculinity the wrong way. But of course there are always going to be people of each gender who don't appreciate being viewed as "cute" because that's not the image they want, or they find it like you said patronizing.
I wouldn't. This whole idea of gender roles being the reason for everything is pretty annoying. Sure, there are some gender roles still out there but it has become the go-to explanation for every single difference in the behaviors of men and women.
"It's far more acceptable to call a female cute than a man". Usually when a woman is called cute it is due to their physical attraction to them, same for women actually. Women call guys cute all the time when they are saying they find them physically attractive.
Well ofcourse there will be some men that don't like being called something they don't like. Again, if someone is called scary they don't like it because of some gender role issue they dislike it because they do not view themselves that way nor want to be percieved that way.
For example, take me. Now if you have seen how I put my appearance from my previous profile pictures you'll see that I don't keep to the "masculine" look or what is percieved as such, I certainly don't try to be masculine or feminine, however if I was called cute in the way you are describing I would find it condecending.
You and many other people need to realize that these gender roles came around for a reason. Men and women didn't ust get together and say "Ok, it's masculine to do this and feminine to do that" and started those roles from there, the idea of gender roles were made because that was how men and women were naturally. Sure there's less need for such roles now but that doesn't change that it is how both would naturally work. I also agree that there are those that are not typically masculine when male and feminine when female, and that's alright, they should be accepted and typically are. What isn't alright is just randomly assuming that because there are those types of people that do not go with the flow in what is typpically male or female behavior does not change what is typical male and female behavior and assuming we act the way we do due to some cultural form rather than the culture was formed by our already natural ways that then got percieved as gender roles.
But yeah, people are different. Some might like it, some might not, some may not care. I just don't like the whole "gender roles dun did it" arguement. Lol.
It does because it involves the way each sex is socialized.
Traditional roles are unnecessary and over-simplify gender. They should be a base at most. I'm not saying everyone has to be transgender, but there's no need for it to be so polarized and I doubt that's as "natural" as we claim it to be
Anyways I know that's obviously not the only component to this question, and I'm not sitting here thinking that any guy who doesn't like it is butthurt about their man-pride. But you'd have to have stuck your head in the ground to think that gender has nothing to do with it
Ok. Let's look at it this way. If we look back at how humans were before society, what were men and women like? Different, right? It's time to stop blaming society for how genders are and accept that those ways the genders differentiate existed far before we became a civilized species.
I also don't like how you have not taken in to consideration as to why it doesn't have anything to do with gender in a lot of cases and that people simply do not like being called things they do not like to consider themselves as and merely repeated what you stated.
I would say you have to have your heads in the clouds reaching if you think that gender roles in the leading reason for it.
Yeah they were different from the start, but that doesn't mean they were always the way they are now. It's not something that stays stagnant, clearly, or I would be married rn cooking dinner for some idiot who just got ownership of my house and person because my father wanted a few bucks.
id like to think its 1/3 gender construct, 1/3 testosterone and 1/3 personal preference lol but im no expert
apparently you don't know how to read because i acknowledged that gender wasnt the only reason and that i know there is personal image and preference
Yes and no. Ofcourse we're not going to have the same differences as we did back when we were still primitive, we've adapted those ways to fit the advancements we've made as a species so we're still going to have those original behaviors as we used to but now it's in a different way due to being in a different life style.
It isn't until recently that we've decided to break away from those ways that we used to have "by law" because the old way wasn't necessary, that doesn't mean the species is used to being that way just that it's how the world is now. Our species has always been living a certain way until recently and that passes down, so we're still going to have some of those old traditional ways about us until we have a longer time being the way we live now.
Or you'd be cooking dinner and cleaning for some caring guy who has his own house who takes care of you. This idea that men in the past were just romantic bosses is just too...Well, annoying.
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Yes and no. Depends on the situation. Some people just don't like being percieved as cute like you would view a puppy. There is a certain immaturity to being called cute in the way you describe. Look at what is typically considered cute in this context...Thought of a few? Now compare that to a human...Not very flattering, is it? Just like some people don't want to be seen as "scary" others do not want to look "cute" because it can be patronizing, not due to some sort of gender role idea as I read above...Which most I didn't see the relevance of. >_>
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I would say it's both. It's definitely way more acceptable to call a female cute than a man. And there are certainly men who don't like it because it brushes their masculinity the wrong way. But of course there are always going to be people of each gender who don't appreciate being viewed as "cute" because that's not the image they want, or they find it like you said patronizing.
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I wouldn't. This whole idea of gender roles being the reason for everything is pretty annoying. Sure, there are some gender roles still out there but it has become the go-to explanation for every single difference in the behaviors of men and women.
"It's far more acceptable to call a female cute than a man". Usually when a woman is called cute it is due to their physical attraction to them, same for women actually. Women call guys cute all the time when they are saying they find them physically attractive.
Well ofcourse there will be some men that don't like being called something they don't like. Again, if someone is called scary they don't like it because of some gender role issue they dislike it because they do not view themselves that way nor want to be percieved that way.
For example, take me. Now if you have seen how I put my appearance from my previous profile pictures you'll see that I don't keep to the "masculine" look or what is percieved as such, I certainly don't try to be masculine or feminine, however if I was called cute in the way you are describing I would find it condecending.
You and many other people need to realize that these gender roles came around for a reason. Men and women didn't ust get together and say "Ok, it's masculine to do this and feminine to do that" and started those roles from there, the idea of gender roles were made because that was how men and women were naturally. Sure there's less need for such roles now but that doesn't change that it is how both would naturally work. I also agree that there are those that are not typically masculine when male and feminine when female, and that's alright, they should be accepted and typically are. What isn't alright is just randomly assuming that because there are those types of people that do not go with the flow in what is typpically male or female behavior does not change what is typical male and female behavior and assuming we act the way we do due to some cultural form rather than the culture was formed by our already natural ways that then got percieved as gender roles.
But yeah, people are different. Some might like it, some might not, some may not care. I just don't like the whole "gender roles dun did it" arguement. Lol.
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It does because it involves the way each sex is socialized.
Traditional roles are unnecessary and over-simplify gender. They should be a base at most. I'm not saying everyone has to be transgender, but there's no need for it to be so polarized and I doubt that's as "natural" as we claim it to be
Anyways I know that's obviously not the only component to this question, and I'm not sitting here thinking that any guy who doesn't like it is butthurt about their man-pride. But you'd have to have stuck your head in the ground to think that gender has nothing to do with it
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Ok. Let's look at it this way. If we look back at how humans were before society, what were men and women like? Different, right? It's time to stop blaming society for how genders are and accept that those ways the genders differentiate existed far before we became a civilized species.
I also don't like how you have not taken in to consideration as to why it doesn't have anything to do with gender in a lot of cases and that people simply do not like being called things they do not like to consider themselves as and merely repeated what you stated.
I would say you have to have your heads in the clouds reaching if you think that gender roles in the leading reason for it.
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Yeah they were different from the start, but that doesn't mean they were always the way they are now. It's not something that stays stagnant, clearly, or I would be married rn cooking dinner for some idiot who just got ownership of my house and person because my father wanted a few bucks.
id like to think its 1/3 gender construct, 1/3 testosterone and 1/3 personal preference lol but im no expert
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Yes and no. Ofcourse we're not going to have the same differences as we did back when we were still primitive, we've adapted those ways to fit the advancements we've made as a species so we're still going to have those original behaviors as we used to but now it's in a different way due to being in a different life style.
It isn't until recently that we've decided to break away from those ways that we used to have "by law" because the old way wasn't necessary, that doesn't mean the species is used to being that way just that it's how the world is now. Our species has always been living a certain way until recently and that passes down, so we're still going to have some of those old traditional ways about us until we have a longer time being the way we live now.
Or you'd be cooking dinner and cleaning for some caring guy who has his own house who takes care of you. This idea that men in the past were just romantic bosses is just too...Well, annoying.