You're going about it all wrong see. When you're approaching a woman, your thought process shouldn't be: "I wonder if she'll like me, I wonder if she'll think I'm interesting/attractive, I hope she thinks I'm funny/cute." It should be: "I wonder if I'll like her, I wonder if she's interesting enough for me, I hope she's got a good sense of humor, cause if not then I'll be moving along..."
You have to not only think you're attractive, interesting, and funny. You have to believe it, and be secure enough with yourself to not care if she doesn't see these qualities in you. Instead of seeing women and visualizing them as "the catch," you have to convince yourself (and them) that YOU are the catch.
Be confident, try to develop conversational skills if you haven't already. If you're nervous, try not to think about it too much. Talk to them like you've known them for years, build a rapport with them if you will. Really pay attention to what they are saying, and genuinely be interested in what they have to say (provided it's actually something that's interesting in the first place).
These things may sound trite and cliche, but it's the truth (at least in my experience). You go through this routine enough times, you'll develop the skills. Pay attention to your mistakes because we all make them, and hone this craft so that you may wield it with utmost conviction. But don't get too cocky about it, women don't like that either. Be a gentleman, and be cool.
Guys - Why Do You Get Approach Anxiety?
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You're going about it all wrong see. When you're approaching a woman, your thought process shouldn't be: "I wonder if she'll like me, I wonder if she'll think I'm interesting/attractive, I hope she thinks I'm funny/cute." It should be: "I wonder if I'll like her, I wonder if she's interesting enough for me, I hope she's got a good sense of humor, cause if not then I'll be moving along..."
You have to not only think you're attractive, interesting, and funny. You have to believe it, and be secure enough with yourself to not care if she doesn't see these qualities in you. Instead of seeing women and visualizing them as "the catch," you have to convince yourself (and them) that YOU are the catch.
Be confident, try to develop conversational skills if you haven't already. If you're nervous, try not to think about it too much. Talk to them like you've known them for years, build a rapport with them if you will. Really pay attention to what they are saying, and genuinely be interested in what they have to say (provided it's actually something that's interesting in the first place).
These things may sound trite and cliche, but it's the truth (at least in my experience). You go through this routine enough times, you'll develop the skills. Pay attention to your mistakes because we all make them, and hone this craft so that you may wield it with utmost conviction. But don't get too cocky about it, women don't like that either. Be a gentleman, and be cool.
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DonnieLighto
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thx, man. I appreciate the advice.