"I feel like I'm just bothering her"
Where are you approaching women? As a general rule, if you think you're bothering a woman by approaching her, you probably are. There are appropriate times and places to approach people, and there are many, many inappropriate times and places for it.
I'd never bother a chick in an enclosed area, and having a false time constraint on the street seems to reduce her level of "oh no, get this guy out of here" vibe.
Although I obviously can't speak for all women, I know for a fact that I'm not alone in this. I really, really hate being approached by strangers on the street, and I hated it when I was single, too. If I'm not somewhere where that kind of interaction is expected, like a bar or club, I want to be able to expect to be left alone. Honestly, I'm not always polite when I'm approached, because some men take politeness as an invitation to keep trying, and I don't have time or energy for that.
It's different, of course, if I'm being approached in an appropriate way by somebody who I already know. When I was single, I didn't expect friends, classmates, etc who might have feelings for me to wait until we happen to be in the same club to ask me out.
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"I feel like I'm just bothering her"
Where are you approaching women? As a general rule, if you think you're bothering a woman by approaching her, you probably are. There are appropriate times and places to approach people, and there are many, many inappropriate times and places for it.
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I'd never bother a chick in an enclosed area, and having a false time constraint on the street seems to reduce her level of "oh no, get this guy out of here" vibe.
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Although I obviously can't speak for all women, I know for a fact that I'm not alone in this. I really, really hate being approached by strangers on the street, and I hated it when I was single, too. If I'm not somewhere where that kind of interaction is expected, like a bar or club, I want to be able to expect to be left alone. Honestly, I'm not always polite when I'm approached, because some men take politeness as an invitation to keep trying, and I don't have time or energy for that.
It's different, of course, if I'm being approached in an appropriate way by somebody who I already know. When I was single, I didn't expect friends, classmates, etc who might have feelings for me to wait until we happen to be in the same club to ask me out.