Thank you so much for the advice, you legit are one of my fav people in this cesspool
- I will give the meditation a go, that seems like a really useful idea
- I doubt any of my gf's will want to bang me. I do live with a hairy dude who gives me the sex, but I honestly dont feel like having sex at all. I feel bad for him, cause I'm super withdrawn & I feel like being alone lately
- it's the end of winter here & I'm thinking i might jump in the ocean, since i wont see it for a while (this is a really awesome suggestion, actually)
What's stressin me:
short story: applying for a marriage Visa & have to leave the country coz they might be making a decision
Long long long story (and bless you if you even read it)
I'm American, getting married to an aussie. I've been living in Australia for quite a few years, applying for my marriage Visa, which is a really stressful process becoz they require ridiculous amounts of info & it's super expensive. I have to switch visas a lot, but on the one I've been on for around 2 years, I have to leave the country every 3 months, which was amazing at first- mini vacations to new zeland & shit, amazing experiences, coolest shit ever.
After a bit of this, customs had questions when I entered the country, que entrance interviews with required documentation & financials, no guarantee that I will be allowed in, which makes it super stressful to leave the country...just like, makes me want to puke level stress.
So I just, JUST got back from one of these trips & my immigration lawyer tells me that I should probably fly to America, just in case they decide on my visa (he has reason to think that they might decide soon & I should leave just in case, no guarantee)
So I got a 19 hour flight, plus layovers & 3 other flights, about 36 hrs worth of traveling, no guarantee that they will decide on my Visa, not sure that I can get back into australia, my current Visa in australia running out, so I might get stuck in the US, people in some govt office making decisions about the rest of my life, time away from my fiance, getting kicked out of my own house & not knowing when I'm allowed to come back & having no idea what's gonna happen.
I've been laying in bed & feeling like barfing lately. It's a good thing to have a decision on my Visa, but it certainly doesnt feel that way right now.
I've vented so much. If you've read this all, you are so awesome & thank you so much!!
When I'm talking about sex, I'm talking about real loving sex. Not porn disgusting sex. When done well, it can help in a lot of ways, including physical and mental health.
Well, your situation seems a bit complex. I've known friends who had trouble with their visa too.
Even if you get stuck in one country or another, this is not like it was decades ago. Now you can still stay in contact with your loved ones and they can come to you by flight.
You should not worry about it too much, as worrying won't make things happen or prevent them from happening. Whatever must happen will happen, whether you're worried or not. So don't worry, it won't change a thing. Just live in the present and enjoy what you have.
You'll always find a way.
I'm sorry about your situation. This experience would give me the heebie jeebies. Once my mind is in overdrive with heebie jeebie confusion, nothing can calm it down. When this happens, aerobic exercise is the best. I go running for 45 minutes. It protects my body, and makes me stay asleep at night.
Good luck with your Visa. Australia doesn't piss around. They have a Donald Trump strictness about immigration, except they are civil and polite about saying no. Regardless of the decision, I would love to have had your adventure. In that sense, you are very lucky. All the best!
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Thank you so much for the advice, you legit are one of my fav people in this cesspool
- I will give the meditation a go, that seems like a really useful idea
- I doubt any of my gf's will want to bang me. I do live with a hairy dude who gives me the sex, but I honestly dont feel like having sex at all. I feel bad for him, cause I'm super withdrawn & I feel like being alone lately
- it's the end of winter here & I'm thinking i might jump in the ocean, since i wont see it for a while (this is a really awesome suggestion, actually)
What's stressin me:
short story: applying for a marriage Visa & have to leave the country coz they might be making a decision
Long long long story (and bless you if you even read it)
I'm American, getting married to an aussie. I've been living in Australia for quite a few years, applying for my marriage Visa, which is a really stressful process becoz they require ridiculous amounts of info & it's super expensive. I have to switch visas a lot, but on the one I've been on for around 2 years, I have to leave the country every 3 months, which was amazing at first- mini vacations to new zeland & shit, amazing experiences, coolest shit ever.
After a bit of this, customs had questions when I entered the country, que entrance interviews with required documentation & financials, no guarantee that I will be allowed in, which makes it super stressful to leave the country...just like, makes me want to puke level stress.
So I just, JUST got back from one of these trips & my immigration lawyer tells me that I should probably fly to America, just in case they decide on my visa (he has reason to think that they might decide soon & I should leave just in case, no guarantee)
So I got a 19 hour flight, plus layovers & 3 other flights, about 36 hrs worth of traveling, no guarantee that they will decide on my Visa, not sure that I can get back into australia, my current Visa in australia running out, so I might get stuck in the US, people in some govt office making decisions about the rest of my life, time away from my fiance, getting kicked out of my own house & not knowing when I'm allowed to come back & having no idea what's gonna happen.
I've been laying in bed & feeling like barfing lately. It's a good thing to have a decision on my Visa, but it certainly doesnt feel that way right now.
I've vented so much. If you've read this all, you are so awesome & thank you so much!!
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When I'm talking about sex, I'm talking about real loving sex. Not porn disgusting sex. When done well, it can help in a lot of ways, including physical and mental health.
Well, your situation seems a bit complex. I've known friends who had trouble with their visa too.
Even if you get stuck in one country or another, this is not like it was decades ago. Now you can still stay in contact with your loved ones and they can come to you by flight.
You should not worry about it too much, as worrying won't make things happen or prevent them from happening. Whatever must happen will happen, whether you're worried or not. So don't worry, it won't change a thing. Just live in the present and enjoy what you have.
You'll always find a way.
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Thank you so much. This is amazing advice and exactly what I needed to hear.
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Glad to help.
I'm sorry about your situation. This experience would give me the heebie jeebies. Once my mind is in overdrive with heebie jeebie confusion, nothing can calm it down. When this happens, aerobic exercise is the best. I go running for 45 minutes. It protects my body, and makes me stay asleep at night.
Good luck with your Visa. Australia doesn't piss around. They have a Donald Trump strictness about immigration, except they are civil and polite about saying no. Regardless of the decision, I would love to have had your adventure. In that sense, you are very lucky. All the best!
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Never read about manus island or nauru, boogs?
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I haven't. Are the two of you planning a destination wedding there?