Going cold turkey on relationships involuntarily

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ever since i first started dating, i have a tendency to really like the person in the first place and it might last from 2 weeks to 2 months.
but after that, i all of a sudden get this feeling of being uncomfortable around them.
its almost like i feel bipolar, i like them one day, and the next they annoy me sooo much.
is this normal? idk what i'm doing wrong

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I think its called the honeymoon period. Or as they say, love is blind. Or another expression: you put the person on a pedestal.

    Anyway this courting activity involves each idealizing the other person, seeing mainly or only what you want to & hope for, both people being on their best behaviour, fantasy, high emotions (crushing) and the like.

    None of that is sustainable, nor entirely real, and one day a truer picture of you and your partner emerges.

    That's what I think happening and it is totally normal. What can you do? Be aware of the tendency for early infatuation, enjoy it, but try to be honest about each other, I guess.

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  • bazwell
    14 years ago

    Ollieo gives a good description of what might be happening. In addition to that, this might be all about you and your own insecurities as Jake989 suggests. Your difficulty seeing past a person's flaws and appreciating their fallibility may be a way for you to feel superior and judgemental about them...because you are really fearful and insecure about them seeing and accepting YOUR imperfections.

    If this seems even remotely possible as the case, then I suggest you reflect upon the aspects of yourself that you are not very happy about. Determine what's truely under your control and what's not...then begin working on those that are. The more you forgive yourself for the way you are, the easier it will be to honestly do this with others.

    best of luck to you!

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  • Jake989
    14 years ago

    Hmm. I wouldn't say this is normal, but do not feel singled out lol. I am pretty sure I have been through a stage like that also. Maybe insecurity? I'm not sure. Maybe you just haven't found somebody that you actually love. When you do they shouldn't annoy you at first. Pretty much until you get married. I say keep searching maybe stray from relationships and just see what you think. I dunno lol. Just don't get worried about it it could also
    be commitment problems. Suck it up and stock it out and tell yourself to quit thinkin like a danm fool. It's good to be with someone who cares about you. You will find someone. I hope this helped. Goodluck!

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